Zindikirani ndi kuvomereza zofooka zanu
Tikamakamba za ntchito, nthawi zambiri timaganizira kwambiri za mphamvu zathu, luso lathu komanso luso lathu. Komabe, ndikofunikanso kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira zofooka zathu kuti tiwasamalire bwino. Zoona zake, ntchito yopambana sikungokhudza mphamvu zathu zokha, komanso momwe timachitira ndikusintha zofooka zathu kukhala mwayi wakukulirakulira.
Koposa zonse, tiyenera kuvomereza mfundo yakuti palibe amene ali wangwiro ndiponso kuti tonsefe tili ndi zofooka. Mfundo zofooka zimenezi zikhoza kukhala m’njira zosiyanasiyana: luso limene sitinaphunzirepo, chizoloŵezi chimene chimalepheretsa ntchito yathu yogwira ntchito bwino, kapena kuvutika kusamalira zinthu zina. Zofooka zimenezi nthawi zina zingaoneke ngati zosatheka kwa ife, ndipo n’zosavuta kugwera mumsampha wozinyalanyaza kapena kuzibisa. Komabe, kuwanyalanyaza kumangowonjezera mavuto awo pa ntchito yathu.
M’malo mwake, n’kofunika kuzindikira zofooka zathu, kuzivomereza ndi kuyang’anizana nazo ndi maganizo abwino. Sikuti tizidziweruza tokha mwankhanza, koma kukhala oona mtima kwa ife tokha. Pokhapokha povomereza kuti tili ndi zofooka tingayambe kuthana nazo ndi kuzisintha kukhala nyonga.
Ndilo sitepe yoyamba yosinthira zofookazo kukhala zolimba zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuchita bwino pantchito yanu. Ndiye tingadziwe bwanji ndi kuvomereza zofooka zathu? Pali njira zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa izi. Tiye tione kuti ndi ati.
Sinthani zofooka kukhala mwayi wakukula
Tsopano popeza tazindikira ndi kuvomereza zofooka zathu, kodi timazisintha bwanji kukhala mphamvu? Chinsinsi chagona pakutha kusintha kawonedwe kathu ndikuwona zofooka izi ngati mwayi wakukula.
Kumvetsetsa kuti zofooka zathu siziri zophophonya zachikhalire, koma m'malo momwe tingawongolere ndikukula, ndikofunikira kuzindikira. Zikutanthauza kuti tili ndi mphamvu zosinthira zofookazo kukhala zolimba.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli ndi vuto lolankhula pagulu, m'malo mowona izi ngati zofooka zosasinthika, mutha kuziwona ngati luso lokulitsa. Ndi kuchita bwino ndi maphunziro, simungathe kugonjetsa kufooka uku, koma ngakhale kukhala a woyankhula bwino.
Lingaliro ndi kupanga dongosolo la zochita pa mfundo iliyonse yofooka yomwe yadziwika. Dongosololi liyenera kukhala ndi zolinga zenizeni komanso zoyezeka, masitepe omveka bwino kuti mukwaniritse zolingazo, komanso nthawi yeniyeni. Ndikoyeneranso kuyang'ana zinthu ndi zida zomwe zingathandize kuthana ndi zofooka izi. Izi zitha kuphatikiza mabuku, maphunziro apaintaneti, makochi kapena alangizi.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti kusintha zofooka zathu kukhala nyonga ndi njira yomwe imatenga nthawi ndi khama. Pamafunika kuleza mtima, kulimbikira ndi kupirira. Komabe, ndi malingaliro abwino komanso kufunitsitsa kuphunzira ndikukula, mutha kusintha zofooka zanu kukhala zopindulitsa pantchito.
Tsopano tikambirana njira zenizeni zosinthira zofooka zanu kukhala zolimba.
Njira zokhazikika zosinthira zofooka kukhala zolimba
Tsopano popeza tili ndi dongosolo la zochita pa chofooka chilichonse chomwe tazindikira, titha kukambirana njira zina zosinthira zofookazo kukhala zolimba.
Njira yoyamba ndikutengera malingaliro akukula. Malingana ndi Carol Dweck, katswiri wa zamaganizo pa yunivesite ya Stanford komanso wolemba "Malingaliro: Psychology Yatsopano Yopambana", Kukula kwamalingaliro ndikukhulupilira kuti luso lathu litha kukulitsidwa ndi nthawi, khama komanso kutsimikiza mtima. Zimenezi zikutanthauza kuti tingaphunzire ndi kuwongolera luso kapena khalidwe lililonse, kuphatikizapo zofooka zathu. Lingaliro limeneli likhoza kukhala lomasula kwambiri ndipo limatithandiza kuyang’anizana ndi zofooka zathu ndi chiyembekezo ndi kutsimikiza mtima m’malo mwa mantha ndi kusiya ntchito.
Chotsatira, kudzipenda ndi njira ina yamphamvu yosinthira zofooka kukhala zolimba. Ndi za kubwerera m'mbuyo ndikuwunika zochita zathu, malingaliro athu, ndi malingaliro athu mwachikondi. Kudzisinkhasinkha kungatithandize kumvetsa chifukwa chake timachitira zinthu zina ndi mmene tingachitire zinthu mosiyana kuti tipeze zotsatira zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muwona kuti mukuvutika kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu moyenera, mungayambe kufunafuna njira zowonjezera luso lanu loyendetsa nthawi.
Pomaliza, kuphunzitsa ndi kulangiza kungakhale zida zamtengo wapatali zosinthira zofooka kukhala mphamvu. Mphunzitsi kapena mlangizi akhoza kukupatsani chitsogozo, chilimbikitso, ndi kuyankha mlandu, pamene akukuthandizani kuti muwone zofooka zanu mosiyana. Angakuthandizeninso kupanga njira zothetsera zofooka izi ndikupita ku zolinga zanu zantchito.
