Kulingalira ndi chinthu chofunikira pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku komanso kuntchito. Padziko lonse lapansi, chiwerengero chachikulu cha kukhulupirika chidzakupatsani mwayi waukulu makamaka makamaka ngati mukuyang'anira mafayilo ofunikira. Kuti timvetse bwino maziko a chikhulupiliro ndi zotsatira zake pa kulankhulana kwa mgwirizano, tikukulimbikitsani kuti muzitsatira nkhani yathu mpaka mapeto.
Kodi ndikutanthauza chiyani?
Mawu olimbikitsa amachokera ku Assertiveness wobadwa ku England, lingaliro loyambitsidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ku New York Andrew SALTER ku 1950. Joseph Wolpe analimbikitsa lingaliro limeneli pofotokoza kuti "kumasulidwa kwaulere kumverera kwa wina aliyense, kupatulapo nkhawa".
Kutsimikiza ndi njira yodziwonetsera kudzidziŵa popanda kusintha ena, ndipo izi mwachindunji. Kumbali inayi, kukhudzika kumatsutsana ndi malingaliro atatu omwe anthu amathawa, kuwongolera ndi kuzunza. Izi zimayambitsa kulankhulana bwino ndikuyambitsa mikangano, kusamvana pakati pa oyankhulana, kusamvetsetsana ndi kutaya nthawi.
Kusiyana ndi kudziletsa?
Kutsimikiza kumasiyanasiyana ndi kudziletsa mu gawo limenelo la tanthawuzo lake kumaphatikizapo kudzidalira. Ndikofunikira kudzizindikira nokha ndikudzilandira monga momwe tilili. M'njira ina, kudziletsa kumatanthauza kusagwirizana ndi kudzidziwitsa nokha, makamaka ngati wina ali wopupuluma, woopa, woopa kapena ayi. Chifukwa chake ndi funso la kusankha zosayenera za umunthu, zoyenera, umunthu ...
Kudzipereka komanso kulumikizana osalankhula
Kudzipereka kuyeneranso kufanana ndi kulumikizana kwanu kopanda mawu. Mukamalankhula ndi munthu, uthenga wanu umamveka 10% chifukwa cha mawuwo ndipo zina zonse ndi nkhani yamaganizidwe, manja ndi mamvekedwe amawu makamaka. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti tisapange cholakwika chongoyang'ana pa uthenga wapakamwa popeza mawonekedwewo ndiofunikanso pakuwonetsera komanso kulumikizana kwathunthu.
Kuzindikira masewerawa kumafuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, chifukwa zimadalira zinthu zina monga mtima wamatenda, utoto, kuphulika kwa ophunzira ... Choncho, pofuna kutsimikizira kuti pali mgwirizano pakati pa mawu ndi opanda pake, njira yabwino yothetsera dziko likanakhala lodzipereka pa phunziroli. Kugwirizana uku kumatchedwa congruence.
Congruence imatsimikizira kukhazikitsidwa kwa mgwirizano wabwino. Kulankhulana kopanda mgwirizano kotero kumatanthauza kusokoneza. Njira yotsiriza yolankhulirana, komabe imafuna mphamvu yambiri kuti ikhale yosamvetsetsa bwino pamasomphenya. Choncho chisokonezo pakati pa mawu akuti "kulankhulana", "mphamvu yowonetsera" ndi "kugwiritsira ntchito".
Kulankhulana kapena ubale
Kulankhulana ndi kusinthana pakati pa anthu awiri ogwiritsira ntchito, koma zonse zosinthanitsa sizolumikizana. Choncho, nkofunikanso kukhazikitsa tanthawuzo lenileni la liwu ili, lomwe langoyamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa zovuta zomwe sizigwirizana ndi tanthauzo lake lenileni.
Zowonadi, kukhala wolankhula bwino kumatanthauzanso kukhala ndi mwayi womutsegulira amene amamulankhula, kuti athe kuzindikira zosowa zake osapereka malingaliro ake ngati okhawo omwe ali ndi ufulu wogwira mawu. Pali kusiyana kwenikweni pakati pa kufanana kwa kulumikizana ndi malonda kapena mabodza ena omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala osokoneza bongo ndipo cholinga chake ndikukakamiza omvera kuti atenge lingaliro.
Pankhaniyi, kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi umboni wa kukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale, pakati pa anthu awiri, kuchokera pa chidwi chimene aliyense angapereke kwa wina. Kawirikawiri, ubale umenewu umapereka mwayi kwa wina kuvulaza winayo.
Kuwongolera motsutsana ndi chinyengo
Pamene wogulitsa akugulitsa mankhwala popanda kudziwa kwenikweni zosowa za makasitomala ake, koma cholinga cha kugulitsa katundu wake, tikhoza kunena kuti pali kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Pankhaniyi, kasitomala ayenera kudziwa momwe angakhalire ovomerezeka pozindikiritsa zosowa zake ndi mavuto ake ndi kusankha zokhazokha zomwe zimakumana nazo. Pofuna kupewa vuto lamtunduwu, kampani iliyonse iyenera kuganizira zofuna za makasitomala isanayambe kupereka ntchito zake kapena mankhwala. Apo ayi, n'zovuta kuwatsimikizira moona mtima kuti azigulitsa zinthu zomwe zogulitsidwa.
Ngati mukuyesedwa kuti mugwiritse ntchito kugwiritsira ntchito kugulitsa chinthu kapena lingaliro, yonjezerani kuthekera kwanu kuti mumvetsetse pa zochitika kapena zochitika zosiyanasiyana. Ndizoti mungathe kufotokozera munthu yemwe mukumuyankhula ndikuzindikira zosowa zanu mosasamala kanthu komwe mumayima. Zimatanthawuza kutenga masomphenya mu "miyeso ya 4", ya mlengalenga ndi ya nthawi. Izi ndizoyenera kuganizira zapita, malo omwe iye anagwirizira ndipo akugwira ...
Njira zomwe mungatsatire pofuna kulankhulana bwino
kumvetsera
Kaya mumagwira ntchito yothandizira anthu kapena makampani othandizira alendo, musachite cholakwika kuti mudula mawu a kasitomala kuti muyankhe nthawi yomweyo ndikusunga nthawi. Mpatseni mwayi woti afotokoze vuto lake kapena chifukwa chake amasankha kusankha chinthu china kuposa wina. Kotero, pamene mukufuna kupereka chinthu china kapena yankho, adzalandira ndi kuvomereza maganizo anu. Ngakhale kuti munthu wokwiya amakana mwadongosolo.
kufotokoza wekha
Munthu wotsutsa akhoza kufotokoza kudzikuza kwake kapena kudziyesa yekha. Ena amachita izo mosavuta, ena samatero. Pachifukwa chachiwirichi, kukhumudwa kungakhale kotereku kotero kuti kumafalikira thupi lonse ndipo kumabweretsa mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo. Chofunika kwambiri ndikulongosola molunjika zomwe munthu amaganiza popanda kupatuka pa nkhaniyo komanso popanda kumenyana naye.
Landirani ndi kuyankha kubwerera
Palibe lingaliro liri langwiro, onse ali ndi kulakwitsa. Nthawi zambiri, ndi oyankhulana athu omwe amawona zolakwika izi. Kulandira lingaliro la ena limatanthauza chikhumbo cha kusintha kapena kutseguka kwa malingaliro atsopano. Kulakwitsa kungakhale kukana zofooka za munthu aliyense ndi kudzipatula pa malingaliro ake oyambirira.
Ndondomeko yolankhulirana yomwe muli nayo tsopano ndi zotsatira za zaka zambiri za chizoloŵezi. Komanso, kuyembekezera kuti muzichita nthawi yambiri musanayambe kutsatira mfundo zoyenera. Vuto lalikulu ndi kuphunzira momwe mungamvetsere bwino kuti mudziwe zosowa zanu, pang'onopang'ono mudzaphunzira kuyankha popanda kuchita nkhanza. Motero, kutsimikizirika ndizoyendera bwino pakati pa khalidwe loipa ndi khalidwe laukali.
