Kufotokozeranso zokambirana ndi "Never Cut the Pear in Half"
"Osadula Peyala Pakati Patheka," kalozera wolembedwa mwaluso ndi Chris Voss ndi Tahl Raz, amabweretsa malingaliro atsopano paukadaulo wokambirana. M'malo moyesa kugawana nawo mwachilungamo, bukuli likuphunzitsani momwe mungayendere mochenjera pezani zomwe mukufuna.
Olembawo amatengera zomwe Voss adakumana nazo ngati wokambirana padziko lonse lapansi ku FBI, kupereka njira zoyesedwa nthawi kuti zitheke kukambirana, kaya kukweza malipiro kapena kuthetsa mikangano yaofesi. Limodzi mwa malingaliro ofunikira a bukhuli ndikuti kukambirana kulikonse kumakhazikika pamalingaliro, osati malingaliro. Kumvetsa maganizo a mnzanuyo ndi kuwagwiritsa ntchito kuti apindule kungakupatseni chiyambi.
Ili si buku lomwe limangokuphunzitsani momwe mungapambanire. Zimakuwonetsani momwe mungapangire mikhalidwe yopambana mwa kukhala otsimikiza komanso kumvetsetsa gulu lina. Zimangochepetsanso kudula peyala pakati, komanso kupangitsa gawo lililonse kukhala lokhutira. Voss amatsindika kufunikira kwa kumvetsera mwachidwi, luso lomwe nthawi zambiri limanyalanyazidwa koma lofunikira pakukambirana kulikonse. Amatikumbutsa kuti cholinga cha zokambirana sikufuna kupeza zomwe mukufuna pazochitika zilizonse, koma kupeza mfundo zomwe zimagwira ntchito kwa onse otenga nawo mbali.
Kusadula peyala pakati ndikusintha kwathunthu muzamalonda. Njira zomwe zafotokozedwa m'bukuli sizothandiza kokha pazamalonda, komanso m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Kaya mukukambirana ndi mnzanuyo za yemwe azitsuka mbale kapena kuyesa mwana wanu kuti azichita homuweki, bukuli lili ndi kanthu kwa aliyense.
Njira Zotsimikiziridwa Zokambirana Zopambana
Mu "Musadule Peyala Pakati," Chris Voss akugawana njira zambiri ndi njira zomwe zayesedwa ndikutsimikiziridwa. Bukhuli likukhudza malingaliro monga chiphunzitso cha galasi, mawu oti "inde," ndi luso la kuvomereza kowerengeka, kutchula zochepa chabe.
Voss akugogomezera kufunika kosonyeza chifundo panthawi yokambirana, malangizo omwe amawoneka ngati osagwirizana poyamba. Komabe, monga akufotokozera, kumvetsetsa ndi kuyankha ku malingaliro a gulu lina kungakhale chida champhamvu pokwaniritsa mgwirizano wopindulitsa.
Kuphatikiza apo, Voss amayambitsa chiphunzitso cha galasi - njira yomwe imaphatikizapo kubwereza mawu omaliza kapena ziganizo za wofunsayo kuti awalimbikitse kuti aulule zambiri. Njira yosavuta, koma yogwira mtima imeneyi nthawi zambiri ingapangitse kuti pakhale zopambana pamakambirano ovuta kwambiri.
Njira yachidule ya "inde" ndi njira ina yofunika yomwe ikukambidwa m'bukuli. M'malo moyang'ana "inde" wowongoka womwe nthawi zambiri ukhoza kupangitsa kuti munthu awonongeke, Voss akupereka lingaliro la "yeses" atatu osalankhula. Kutsimikiza kosalunjika kumeneku kungathandize kumanga mgwirizano ndi kukhulupirirana, kupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kupeza mgwirizano womaliza.
Pomaliza, bukuli limafotokoza za luso lowerengera ndalama. M'malo mongovomereza mwachisawawa ndi chiyembekezo cha mgwirizano, Voss amalimbikitsa kupereka chinthu chomwe chili ndi mtengo wowoneka bwino kwa gulu lina, koma chotsika mtengo kwa inu. Njira iyi nthawi zambiri imatha kuthandiza kutseka mgwirizano popanda kuluza.
Zophunzira kuchokera kudziko lenileni
"Musadule peyala pakati" sakhutira ndi malingaliro osamveka; imaperekanso zitsanzo zenizeni kuchokera kudziko lenileni. Chris Voss amagawana nkhani zambiri za ntchito yake monga wokambirana ndi FBI, kuwonetsa momwe mfundo zomwe amaphunzitsa zagwiritsiridwa ntchito pazochitika za moyo ndi imfa.
Nkhanizi zimapereka maphunziro ofunikira momwe kutengeka mtima kungakhudzire zokambirana ndi momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kuti mupindule. Owerenga aphunzira momwe angakhalire odekha komanso okhazikika pazovuta, momwe angathanirane ndi umunthu wovuta, komanso momwe angayendetsere zinthu zovuta kuti mupeze zotsatira zabwino kwambiri.
Nkhani za Voss zimagwiranso ntchito kusonyeza mphamvu za njira zomwe amalimbikitsa. Zimasonyeza, mwachitsanzo, momwe kugwiritsa ntchito galasi lagalasi kunathandizira kuthetsa mikhalidwe yovuta, momwe luso lowerengetsera ndalama lidathandizira kuti pakhale zotsatira zabwino pamakambirano omwe anali pachiwopsezo chachikulu, komanso momwe kusaka kwachidule "inde" kunathandizira. khazikitsani maubwenzi okhulupirirana ndi anthu odana poyamba.
Pogawana zomwe adakumana nazo, Voss amapangitsa kuti zomwe zili m'buku lake zikhale zosavuta komanso zosangalatsa. Owerenga samangokhalira kunena nthanthi; amawona mmene mfundo zimenezi zimagwirira ntchito m’chenicheni. Njirayi imapangitsa kuti mfundo za "Never Dulani Peyala mu Hafu" osati zosangalatsa zokha, komanso zamtengo wapatali kwa iwo omwe akufuna kupititsa patsogolo luso lawo lokambirana.
Kuwerenga kwathunthu kwa "Never Cut the Pear in Half" kumalimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti mupindule ndi ukatswiri wa Chris Voss. Monga woyamba, tikukupemphani kuti mumvetsere vidiyo yomwe ili pansipa yomwe imapereka kumvetsera mitu yoyamba ya bukhuli. Koma kumbukirani, palibe chomwe chingalowe m'malo mwa kuwerenga buku lonse kuti mumizidwe kwathunthu ndi kumvetsetsa mozama.
