Ukugxothwa, ukufa kothandekayo, ukungaphumeleli uviwo, ukwahlukana kwezothando… nabani na unokujamelana nezilingo zobomi nangaliphi na ixesha. Ngelixa uhamba ngexesha elinzima, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kwaye uphazamisekile. Kodwa xa isaqhwithi siphelile, kufuneka sizame ukuqhubela phambili. Ungayifumana njani inkuthazo kwakhona?
Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo
Singatsho kuthi akukho mntu unokubaleka ukubethwa nzima kwaye emva kwemvula, kukho imozulu elungileyo. Xa kuvela iingxaki, uyayiqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo ukunyuka intaba. Kunzima, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani!
Emva kobunzima, sihlala sikhathazwa ziimvakalelo ezingalunganga, ngakumbi uloyiko. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kwelinye icala, akukho mbuzo wokuzivumela ulawulwe ziimvakalelo ezimbi. Kufuneka sibasuse, nokuba sizingele. Unokwenza njani?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uzivumele ukuba wabelane ngentlungu nosizi lwakho kwabo bakungqongileyo. Ukugcina intlungu yakho kuwe akunakunceda kakhulu. Kwakhona, yazi ukuba ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho akubonisi ukuba buthathaka. Ngokuchasene noko, linyathelo elakhayo kakhulu. Ikuvumela ukuba wamkele le meko kwaye uthathe ukubetha okunzima njengoko kufanelekile. Ikwayindlela engcono yokuphepha ukuziva unetyala okunokuthi kutshabalalise isimilo kunye nokuzithemba.
Ukuqhawulwa kwamanye amazwe kudimazeka. Kufuneka silondoloze ubomi obuqhelekileyo bentlalo. Siyabulela kwinkxaso yabanye ukuba umntu unokufumana amandla okumelana neengxaki. Ukongezelela, ukuhlala kwedwa kungabangela iingcamango ezimbi. Xa bebuya kwi-loop, bavelisa uxhalaba.
Ukuxinezeleka kuyintshaba yokulwa ngoba kuya kukuthintela ukuba ufune ukubuyela emva. Kufuneka sifumane iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuyilawula. Ukuba uyaphumelela ukunqoba uxinzelelo, unokuphucula ngokuphawulekayo umgangatho wobomi.
Hlakulela iingcinga ezilungileyo
Ukuze uphinde uvuseleleke kunye nesifiso sokuqhubela phambili, kuyafuneka ukuba uhlakulele iingcinga ezilungileyo. Ukwenza oku, yenza nje ukubuyela okuncinci kwixesha elidlulileyo ukuze ukhumbule ezinye iirekhodi eziye zacima. Inokukunika isibindi.
Yintoni injongo yokuvuselela iingxaki zangaphambili? Ngapha koko, linyathelo elibalulekileyo elinokukunceda woyise imiqobo emitsha. Eyona njongo iphambili kukukhumbula ukufezekisa kunye namandla akho. Ngamanye amagama, kufuneka sizinkqaye iinkumbulo ezintle, oko kukuthi amaxesha apho wakwaziyo ukoyisa amaxhala akho.
Emva koko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingakanani na ingxaki esisandul’ ukujamelana nayo, simele sizixelele ukuba esi asisosihlandlo sokuqala. Ukuba ukwazile ukuphinda ubuyele umva kwixesha elidlulileyo, akukho sizathu sokusilela ngeli xesha. Kuba lula ukufumana inkuthazo.
Fumana intsingiselo kumava obomi
Kwakhona yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphinda uphinde ukhuthaze emva kokuvavanywa kanzima. Ingqiqo kukubona izinto ngokukhanya. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ixesha elinzima ngumthombo wokuxhalaba nokuhlupheka. Kodwa, unokukuzisa into ethile.
Ewe, izilingo ziya komeleza amandla akho okujongana neengxaki. Ngoba ? Kulungile kuba baya kufuna ukuba uqokelele zonke izibonelelo zakho. Kufuneka kuthiwe sihlala sibulibala ubukho babo xa simfanyekiswe yintlungu kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba.
Kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokuvavanya amandla akho ukuze ukwazi ukuwasebenzisa kakuhle. Umsebenzi wophuhliso lomntu ngoko ukwinkqubo. Kufuneka usebenzise indlela elungileyo yokujolisa kwizixhobo zakho kwaye uqaphele ukuba unakho konke ukubuyela kubomi obuqhelekileyo.
Beka iinjongo ezifanelekileyo
Kuzo zonke iimeko, akufuneki silibale ukuba sisandula ukudlula ebubini obunzima kwaye amanxeba asekhona kutshanje. Kuthetha ukuba usengozini kwaye awunamandla. Olunye uvavanyo lunokubulala kuwe. Ke, kufuneka siqhubeke ngononophelo.
Injongo kukuza kwakhiwa kancane kancane. Akukho mfuneko yokwenza ukugquma okukhulu kwaye uwele phantsi kakhulu xa ufumana nayiphi na isithintelo. Omnye kufuneka aphephe uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhatshazwa. Kufuneka uzinike ixesha. Isigqibo esona silumkileyo kukubeka iinjongo ezifanelekileyo nezifikelelekayo.
Yazi ukuba ngokubheja kakhulu, uya kubaleka uye ngqo kwinqanawa. Ewe, umngcipheko wokungafezekisi injongo mkhulu kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, kuthatha kuphela ukuphoxeka okanye ukuphoxeka ukuze ungene kuxinzelelo olupheleleyo. Ke kuya kufuneka uzinike ixesha kwaye uthethe izivakalisi ezikhuthazayo ezinje "uya kuphumelela kumlinganiso wakho".
Yenza iindlela zekhonkrithi
Ukulungiselela ukufezekisa iinjongo ezibekiweyo, kufuneka kwenziwe iindlela eziphathekayo. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba uza kuya emfazweni kwaye ukuze uphumelele kufuneka ube unezixhobo ezilungileyo ezikhoyo. Kufuneka ke ngoko siqale ngokuyeka imikhwa emibi. Ukongeza, kufuneka sandise iinzame zethu.
Kwakhona uyazi ukuba ukukhuthazwa akufumani ngaphandle kokuzithemba. Kufuneka sikholwe kwimpumelelo. Ukongezelela, funda ukuqonda amanani akho. Unganqikazi ukuncoma isinyathelo ngasinye osithathileyo. Ufanele ukhathele yonke intshaba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba luncinane kangakanani. Yazi ukuba ucele uninzi msebenzi kunye nesibindi.
Simele siyeke ukucinga kakhulu ngekamva. Kukho okwenzekayo. Ekugqibeleni, cinga ngokuxelela abanye abathandekayo bakho, kunye nokuba bangenanto okanye bahle. Ngokwenza njalo, uya kufumana ubuncinci bakho.
Ukuqukumbela, ukuphinda ufumane inkuthazo emva kokubethwa kanzima kufuna umsebenzi omninzi. Ayenzeki ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso. Kuya kufuneka uzinike ixesha kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, kuya kufuneka uye phambili kancinci kancinci. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba ungazibekeli iinjongo zokufuna amabhongo. Injongo encinci enokufikelelwa mihla le ingaphezulu kokwaneleyo. Ukufunda ukuqonda imilinganiselo yakho kubalulekile. Ukongeza, umntu kufuneka akholelwe kumandla okuphumelela kwaye afunde ukusebenzisa kunye nokuhlanganisa izixhobo zakhe.
