Ukuqinisekisa i-interlocutor noma umphakathi ngomqondo, kuhlale kudingekile ukuba ukhulume ngokukhuluma, kodwa futhi ukukhulumisana kwamasonto. Ngeke uphumelele uma ungenayo amandla okukholelwa okudingekayo ukubandakanya izethameli zakho. Yingakho udinga ukugcina amandla akho okuqiniseka njengento yobuciko, isimo sesibili. Indlela yokuhlakulela amandla akho okuqiniseka? Funda lapha ukuthi ungayenza kanjani.

Kusho ukuthini "ukukholisa"?

Ngokwezichazamazwi, "ukukholisa ukuholela umuntu, ngenxa yezizathu noma ubufakazi, ukubona ukuthi into eqinisile noma edingekayo. ".
Kumele unikeze imibono yakho noma iziphakamiso ezisekelwa izibonelo noma ubufakazi. Ubuciko bokukholisa Ngempela, kubaluleke kakhulu ebhizinisini nasekuphileni kwebhizinisi, ikakhulu uma kuxoxisana ngesivumelwano phakathi kwamaqembu amabili.

Kungani kunzima ukukholisa?

Asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka uma isethulo ngasinye sephrojekthi entsha, imibono yakho ihlale ibhekene nokuphikiswa kwabanye osebenza nabo noma ophakeme bakho. Kungani? Ngoba ukuphikisana nemibono emisha kuyindlela yokwenziwa kwengqondo jikelele. Ngokuqondene nezingxenyana zomzimba, izinkinga zokulahlwa zivela njalo. Yingakho izidakamizwa zokulwa nokulahlwa zinqunyelwe ukuvimbela ukwenqaba ukuhlanganiswa komzimba.

Ukunqoba lesi simo sokwenqatshwa, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukugwema iphutha elenziwa ngabantu abaningi: lelo lokukholisa abanye ngokubaphoqa ngemibono yabo kusukela ekwethulweni kokuqala. Ngempela, isethulo esilula esiphikisana nemiphumela kanye nemiphumela emihle esingasenza sanele esethulweni sokuqala. Kuyohlale kunesimo sokwaliwa, kepha lesi sigaba sizofinyezwa amasonto ambalwa kakhulu.

Uma imibono yakho ibalulekile, kuyoba nzima kulabo abanesithakazelo ukuthi bangaboshwa. Kungumphumela womsebenzi ongaqondakali we-interlocutor wakho oyokwamukela kalula kalula isiphakamiso sakho ngemuva kwesethulo sesibili. Ohulumeni baye baqonda lokhu ngoba kulo mongo ukuthi amaphrojekthi adluliselwa emaphepheni ngaphambi kokuba aqaphele. Isibalo sabantu sizobe sesithambekele ngokwengeziwe ukwamukela izinguquko.

Izintshumayelo ezinhlanu zengqondo endleleni yokukhohlisa

Njengokuqiniseka, ukukholisa kuhlose ukuthola iphrojekthi yakho eyamukelwa yi-interlocutor yakho noma izilaleli. Ngokungafani nokuhlukumeza okungase kube nokuphela kokungapheleli, ukukholelwa nokukholelwa kufanele kube njalo eceleni kweqiniso. Nazi ezinye izinkolelo ezingokwengqondo ukuze uthole amandla okukholelwa noma ukukholelwa.

I-hypothesis yokukhulisa

 Phakamisa imibono yakho ukwethula noma yikuphi ukuxhumanisa onakho ne-interlocutor yakho noma umphakathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngokomzwelo, kumasiko, ngokuziphatha ...

Umbono wegunya

Empeleni, le mbono ihlanganisa ukuhlinzeka ngolwazi oluphelele, olufanele nolweqiniso mayelana nalokho okushiwo. Lokhu kufakazela ukuthi ulungiselele kahle iphrezentheshini yakho nokuthi uye wazi kahle indaba nokuthi ubuchwepheshe bakho bubalulekile.

Umbono we-priming

Le mbono ihlanganisa ukuhlanganisa umqondo wakho ngememori ngokuvamile ehlala ngumphakathi. Ungathengisa kalula ubisi ngokususa ifufesi lezingane ezisencane ngamathemba akho.

Izinga lokuphindisela

Kuyisimiso esifanayo sokuthi "ukuphindaphinda", kodwa engazi lutho. Uma ufuna izilaleli zakho zilalele umbono wakho noma isiphakamiso, unake imiyalezo kanye nezidingo zabo.

Isimiso sokushoda

Kuvunywa ukuthi into engavamile kakhulu, iyakukhangisa nakakhulu. Manje kufanele ubonise ukuthi uyasiza futhi ukwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo noma ukuxazulula izinkinga ze-interlocutor yakho.

Inqubo ye-YES SET

Manje ukuthi uqonde kangcono lokho okuyiyo, nansi inqubo ehlotshaniswa kalula ne-hypothesis yokukhulisa ngaphambilini eyethulwa ngaphambilini. I-YES SET iqukethe ukucela uchungechunge lwemibuzo ukuthi izimpendulo zazo zizoba "YEBO" ngokulingana. Lokhu kulandelana kwemvume kuvumela i-interlocutor yakho noma izethameli ngendlela enhle. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi isimo.
Lesi simiso sokufaka isimo sihilela ukuthi othile athi "YEBO" izikhathi eziningana, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi uqhubeke uvuma uma nje isiphakamiso sakho sihambisana nemibandela owake wabuza.

Ukubaluleka kokukhulumisana okungaqondile

Ngokusho kochwepheshe, uma wethula amaphrojekthi akho, noma ngabe imibono yakho ifanele kangakanani nokuthi wenza ziphi izingxabano, uma zifundwa ngendlela efiphele, awuzukuba nethuba elincane lokukholisa umxhumanisi wakho noma izilaleli zakho. Ngamagama alula, isitsha sibaluleke njengokuqukethwe, ngoba ukuxhumana cishe kungama-80-90% okungewona amagama. Lokhu kufaka ukubuka, ukushukuma komzimba, amandla, ukuphefumula, ibanga, ukulalela, ukunaka nokusebenzisana. Ngakho-ke khumbula ukuthi uyakholisa kuphela uma ugculiswa yilokho okushoyo.

Ukuba nomzimba womzimba omuhle, noma kunjalo, akusho ukuthi ukuchaza okuncane kakhulu. Ngokuphathelene nokubeka izenzo zakho ngokuvumelana namazwi akho. Ukufeza lokhu, zibuze ukuthi yimiphi imizwelo oyifunayo ezithameli zakho. Nokho, kubalulekile ukuthi ukukhetha kwakho kuhambisane nesimo. Isibonelo, angeke ube nomdlandla uma kufanele umemezele ukulahlekelwa okuncane.

Post-show

Uma amandla okukholelwa kungenasisekelo kuwe, landela lezi zeluleko ezimbalwa ukwenza isethulo sakho.

  • Hlela amanothi ngokulungiselela ezinye izikhumbuzi ukukusiza ubone
  • zilungiselele ngokucophelela ngenkulumo yakho ukuze uzethembe ngokwengeziwe,
  • qinisekisa ukuthi imigomo yakho ifinyeleleka kalula futhi ingangeni embusweni we-toptop,
  • smile ngesikhathi sesethulo, izethameli zakho zizokwenza kahle futhi zizobe zithandwa kakhulu ukukulalela. Ukuqeqesha phambi kwesibuko,

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyisethulo sakho sokuqala, sesibili noma sesishiyagalombili, ungakhohlwa ukulandela ukuze ubone imiphumela nokuziphendukela kwamandla akho okukholelwa. Ngakho-ke, uzokwazi ukuqedela ulwazi lwakho nobuchwepheshe emkhakheni ukuze uhlale wenza kangcono futhi kalula ulalele izethameli zakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphrojekthi oyinikezayo.