I-Charisma iqoshwe: ngaphezu kokuba khona, ubudlelwano

I-Charisma ivame ukubonwa njengesipho sokuzalwa, into umuntu anayo noma angenayo. Nokho, uFrançois Aélion, encwadini yakhe ethi “Le charisme Relationnel”, uyawungabaza lo mbono. Ngokusho kwakhe, i-charisma ayiyona nje i-aura engaqondakali, kodwa kunalokho umphumela wobudlelwane obakhelwe wena kanye nabanye.

U-Aélion ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokuxhumana okuyiqiniso. Ezweni elibuswa izinkundla zokuxhumana kanye nokusebenzisana okukha phezulu, ukuhlakulela ubudlelwano obujulile nobunenjongo kubalulekile. Lobu yiqiniso, leli khono lokuba khona nokulalela ngobuqotho, kuyisihluthulelo se-charisma yeqiniso.

Ubuqiniso bungaphezu nje kokubeka izinto obala. Kuwukuqonda okujulile kwezimiso zomuntu siqu, izifiso kanye nemikhawulo. Uma uzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni obuneqiniso langempela, ugqugquzela ukwethembana. Abantu bakhangwa yilokhu, hhayi nje umdlalo wokuba khona.

U-François Aélion uhamba phambili ngokusungula isixhumanisi phakathi kwe-charisma nobuholi. Umholi onobuhle akuyena ngempela okhuluma kakhulu noma othatha indawo enkulu. Ungumuntu othi, ngobukhona bakhe bangempela, akhe indawo lapho abanye bezizwa bebonwa, bezwa futhi beqondwa.

Le ncwadi isikhumbuza ukuthi i-charisma ayisona isiphetho ngokwayo. Kuyithuluzi, ikhono elingathuthukiswa. Futhi njenganoma yiliphi ikhono, kudinga ukuzijwayeza nokuzihlola. Ekugcineni, i-charisma yeqiniso yileyo ephakamisa abanye, ekhuthazayo, futhi iholele ekushintsheni okuhle.

Ukuhlakulela Ukwethembana Nokulalela: Izinsika Ze-Relational Charisma

Ekuqhubekeni kwenqubo yakhe yokuhlola ye-charism, u-François Aélion uhlala ezinsikeni ezimbili eziyisisekelo zokwakha lobu buhlobo obunothando: ukwethembana nokulalela. Ngokusho kombhali, lezi zakhi ziyisisekelo sanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo beqiniso, kungaba ubungane, ubuchwepheshe noma ezothando.

Ukuthembela kuyisici esinezinhlangothi eziningi. Kuqala ngokuzethemba, ikhono lokukholelwa kumagugu namakhono omuntu. Nokho, kudlulela nasekuthembeni abanye. Yilokhu kubuyisana okwenza kube nokwenzeka ukusungula izibopho eziqinile nezihlala njalo. U-Aélion ugcizelela ukuthi ukwethembana kuwukutshalwa kwezimali. Yakhiwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngezenzo ezingaguquki kanye nezinhloso ezicacile.

Ukulalela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuvame ukubukelwa phansi. Ezweni lapho wonke umuntu efuna ukukhuluma okucabangayo, ukuzinika isikhathi sokulalela ngentshiseko sekuyivelakancane. I-Aélion inikeza amasu nokuzivocavoca ukuthuthukisa lokhu kulalela okusebenzayo, okudlulela ngale kweqiniso elilula lokuzwa. Kumayelana nokuqonda ngempela umbono womunye, ukuzwa imizwa yabo, kanye nokunikeza impendulo efanele.

Umshado wokwethembana nokulalela wakha lokho u-Aélion akubiza ngokuthi “i-relational charisma”. Akukhona nje ukukhangwa okukha phezulu, kodwa ikhono elijulile lokuxhuma, ukuqonda kanye nokuba nomthelela omuhle kulabo abaseduze kwakho. Ngokuhlakulela lezi zinsika ezimbili, umuntu ngamunye angakwazi ukufinyelela ithonya lemvelo, elisekelwe ekuhloniphaneni nasekuthembekeni.

Ngaphandle kwamagama: Amandla emizwa nokungakhulumi

Kulesi sigaba sokugcina sokuhlola kwakhe, u-François Aélion wembula isici esivame ukunganakwa se-charisma yobudlelwane: ukuxhumana okungakhulumi kanye nobuhlakani bemizwa. Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, i-charisma ayiyona nje izinkulumo ezinhle noma ubugagu obumangalisayo. Iphinde ihlale kulokho okungashiwongo, ebucikweni bokuba khona.

U-Aélion uchaza ukuthi cishe u-70% wokuxhumana kwethu akukhona ngomlomo. Ukushukuma komzimba wethu, isimo sobuso, ukuma, ngisho nokushoshozela kwezwi lethu kuvame ukusho okungaphezu kwamagama ngokwawo. Ukuxhawulana okulula noma ukubukeka kungasungula ukuxhumana okujulile noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, kudale umgoqo ongenakunqotshwa.

Ubuhlakani bomzwelo ubuciko bokubona, ukuqonda nokulawula imizwa yethu, sibe sizwela kweyabanye. U-Aelion uphakamisa ukuthi lesi yisihluthulelo sokuzulazula ngekhono emhlabeni oyinkimbinkimbi wobudlelwane babantu. Ngokulalela imizwa yethu kanye neyabanye, singakha ukuxhumana okuyiqiniso okwengeziwe, okunozwela nokucebisayo.

U-François Aélion uphetha ngokukhumbula ukuthi i-charisma yobudlelwane ifinyeleleka kuwo wonke umuntu. Akuyona ikhwalithi yokuzalwa, kodwa isethi yamakhono angathuthukiswa ngokuzimisela, ukuqwashisa nokusebenza. Ngokusebenzisa amandla emizwelo kanye nokuxhumana okungakhulumi, sonke singaba ngabaholi abanothando ezimpilweni zethu.

 

Zitholele inguqulo yomsindo "ye-Relational Charisma" ka-François Aélion. Leli yithuba eliyivelakancane lokulalela yonke incwadi futhi ujule ekujuleni kwezimfihlakalo ze-Relational Charisma.