E ʻike a ʻae i kou mau nāwaliwali
Ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i nā ʻoihana, ʻo ka manaʻo pinepine i ko mākou ikaika, kālena a me nā mākau. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui e ʻike a ʻike i ko mākou mau wahi nāwaliwali i mea e hoʻokele maikaʻi ai iā lākou. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka ʻoihana kūleʻa ʻaʻole wale e pili ana i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ko mākou mau ikaika, akā pehea ka maikaʻi o kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana a hoʻololi i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali i mau manawa e ulu ai.
Ma luna o nā mea a pau, pono mākou e ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻohe kanaka i hemolele a he mau wahi nāwaliwali ko mākou āpau. Hiki i kēia mau wahi nāwaliwali ke loaʻa i nā ʻano like ʻole: kahi mākaukau ʻaʻole mākou i mākaukau, kahi maʻamau e keʻakeʻa ana i kā mākou huahana, a i ʻole ka paʻakikī i ka mālama ʻana i kekahi mau kūlana. ʻO kēia mau nawaliwali i kekahi manawa he mea hikiʻole ke lanakila iā mākou, a he mea maʻalahi ke hāʻule i loko o ka pahele o ka nānāʻole a hūnā paha. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana iā lākou e hoʻonui wale i kā lākou hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kā mākou ʻoihana.
Akā, he mea nui ia e ʻike i ko mākou mau wahi nāwaliwali, e ʻae iā lākou a e alo iā lākou me ka manaʻo maikaʻi. ʻAʻole ia e pili ana i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana iā mākou iho, akā e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo nui iā mākou iho. Ma ka ʻae wale ʻana he mau nāwaliwali kā mākou e hoʻomaka ai e kamaʻilio iā lākou a hoʻohuli iā lākou i mau ikaika.
ʻO ia ka hana mua e hoʻohuli i kēlā mau nāwaliwali i mau ikaika e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kūleʻa i kāu ʻoihana. No laila pehea mākou e ʻike ai a ʻae i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali? Nui nā ala e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokō i kēia. E ʻike kākou i nā mea hea.
E hoʻololi i nā nāwaliwali i mau manawa ulu
I kēia manawa ua ʻike mākou a ʻae i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali, pehea mākou e hoʻohuli ai iā lākou i mau ikaika? Aia ka mea huna i ko mākou hiki ke hoʻololi i ko mākou hiʻohiʻona a ʻike i kēia mau nāwaliwali e like me nā manawa e ulu ai.
ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ʻaʻole he mau hemahema ko mākou mau nāwaliwali, akā ʻo nā wahi kahi e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomaikaʻi a ulu, he mea nui ia. 'O ia ho'i he mana ko mākou e ho'ololi i kēlā mau nāwaliwali i mau ikaika.
No ka laʻana, inā pilikia ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo ʻana i ka lehulehu, ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana i kēia he nāwaliwali hiki ʻole ke hoʻoponopono ʻia, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā ia he mākaukau e hoʻomohala. Me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa kūpono a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila wale i kēia nāwaliwali, akā hiki ke lilo i a kamaʻilio kamaʻilio.
ʻO ka manaʻo e hana i kahi hoʻolālā hana no kēlā me kēia wahi nāwaliwali i ʻike ʻia. Pono i loko o kēia kumumanaʻo nā pahuhopu kikoʻī a hiki ke ana ʻia, nā ʻanuʻu maopopo e hoʻokō ai i kēlā mau pahuhopu, a me kahi kaʻina manawa maoli. Pono nō hoʻi e ʻimi i nā kumuwaiwai a me nā mea paahana e hiki ke kōkua i ka lanakila ʻana i kēia mau nāwaliwali. Hiki i kēia ke komo i nā puke, nā haʻawina pūnaewele, nā kumu aʻo a i ʻole nā kumu aʻoaʻo.
He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali i mau ikaika he hana ia e pono ai ka manawa a me ka hoʻoikaika. Pono ia i ka hoʻomanawanui, ka hoʻomanawanui a me ke kūpaʻa. Eia naʻe, me ka manaʻo maikaʻi a me ka makemake e aʻo a ulu, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohuli i kou mau nāwaliwali i mau waiwai ʻoihana waiwai.
Ke kūkākūkā nei mākou i kekahi mau hoʻolālā paʻa e hoʻohuli i kou mau nāwaliwali i mau ikaika.
Nā hoʻolālā paʻa e hoʻololi i nā nāwaliwali i ikaika
I kēia manawa ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi hoʻolālā hana no kēlā me kēia nāwaliwali i ʻike ʻia, hiki iā mākou ke kūkākūkā i kekahi mau kumu kikoʻī no ka hoʻololi ʻana i kēlā mau nāwaliwali i ikaika.
ʻO ka hoʻolālā mua e hoʻokomo i kahi noʻonoʻo ulu. Wahi a Carol Dweck, he kanaka psychologist ma Stanford University a me ka mea kākau o "Manaʻo Manaʻo: Ke Psychology Hou o ke Kūlana"ʻO ka noʻonoʻo ulu ka manaʻoʻiʻo e hiki ke hoʻomohala ʻia ko mākou hiki me ka manawa, ka hoʻoikaika a me ka hoʻoholo. ʻO ia ke ʻano e hiki iā mākou ke aʻo a hoʻomaikaʻi i kēlā me kēia akamai a i ʻole ke ʻano, me ko mākou mau nāwaliwali. Hiki i kēia manaʻo ke hoʻokuʻu loa a hiki iā mākou ke alo i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali me ka manaʻo maikaʻi a me ka manaʻo paʻa ma mua o ka makaʻu a me ka haʻalele.
ʻO ka mea aʻe, ʻo ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī kekahi hoʻolālā ikaika no ka hoʻohuli ʻana i nā nāwaliwali i ikaika. E pili ana i ka hoʻi hope a nānā i kā mākou mau hana, manaʻo, a me nā manaʻo me ke aloha objectivity. Hiki i ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī ke kōkua iā mākou e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu e hana ai mākou i kekahi mau mea a pehea mākou e hana ai i nā mea ʻokoʻa e loaʻa ai nā hopena maikaʻi aʻe. No ka laʻana, inā ʻike ʻoe ke paʻakikī nei ʻoe e hoʻokele pono i kou manawa, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e ʻimi i nā ala e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kāu mau mākau hoʻokele manawa.
ʻO ka hope, ʻo ke aʻo ʻana a me ke aʻo ʻana hiki ke lilo i mau mea hana waiwai no ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā nāwaliwali i ikaika. Hiki i ke kumu a i ʻole ke kumu aʻoaʻo ke hāʻawi i ke alakaʻi, paipai, a me ke kuleana, ʻoiai e kōkua ana iā ʻoe e ʻike i kou mau nāwaliwali mai kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa. Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomohala i nā hoʻolālā e lanakila ai i kēia mau nāwaliwali a neʻe i kāu mau pahuhopu ʻoihana.
