Pangani chidwi choyamba chosaiwalika ndi ukadaulo wa Nicolas Boothman
Mu "Convince in less than 2 minutes", Nicolas Boothman akupereka njira yachidule komanso yosinthira kuti athe kulumikizana ndi ena nthawi yomweyo. Ndi chida chamtengo wapatali kwa aliyense amene akufuna kukonza luso lawo kulankhulana ndi kukopa.
Boothman akuyamba kunena kuti kuyanjana kulikonse ndi mwayi wopanga chidwi choyambirira chosaiwalika. Amatsindika kufunikira kwa chilankhulo cha thupi, kumvetsera mwachidwi komanso mphamvu ya mawu popanga lingaliro loyambalo. Kugogomezera kumayikidwa pa kufunikira kwa zowona ndi kulumikizana kwamalingaliro ndi ena. Boothman amapereka njira zokwaniritsira cholinga ichi, zina zomwe zingawoneke ngati zotsutsana.
Mwachitsanzo, amalangiza mochenjera kutsanzira thupi la munthu winayo kuti apange kulumikizana nthawi yomweyo. Boothman akugogomezeranso kufunikira kwa kumvetsera mwachidwi ndi mwachifundo, kutsindika osati zomwe wina akunena, komanso momwe akuzinenera ndi momwe akumvera.
Pomaliza, Boothman akuumirira pa kusankha mawu. Iye ananena kuti mawu amene timagwiritsa ntchito amatha kukhudza kwambiri mmene anthu ena amationera. Kugwilitsila nchito mau opatsa cikhulupililo ndi cidwi kungatithandize kukhala ndi maunansi olimba, opindulitsa.
Njira zatsopano zolankhulirana kuti mukope omvera anu
Chimodzi mwazamphamvu kwambiri za bukhuli "Kutsimikizira mu mphindi zosakwana 2" zili mu konkire ndi zida zogwiritsidwa ntchito zomwe wolemba Nicolas Boothman amapereka kwa owerenga ake. Boothman akugogomezera, monga tanenera kale, kufunikira kwa kuwonekera koyamba kugulu, kunena kuti munthu amakhala ndi masekondi 90 kuti apange kulumikizana kwabwino ndi munthu wina.
Imayambitsa lingaliro la "njira zoyankhulirana": zowoneka, zomveka komanso zachibale. Malinga ndi Boothman, tonsefe tili ndi njira yabwino yomwe timazindikira ndikutanthauzira dziko lotizungulira. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wowoneka akhoza kunena kuti "Ndikuwona zomwe mukutanthauza", pamene munthu womvera anganene kuti "Ndamva zomwe mukunena". Kumvetsetsa ndikusintha zoyankhulirana zathu kuti zigwirizane ndi njirazi zitha kukulitsa luso lathu lolumikizana ndi kukopa ena.
Boothman amaperekanso njira zothandizira kuyang'ana m'maso, kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulidwe cha thupi kuti asonyeze kumasuka ndi chidwi, ndi kukhazikitsa "galasi" kapena kulunzanitsa ndi munthu amene mukuyesera kumunyengerera, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale odziwa bwino komanso otonthoza.
Ponseponse, Boothman amapereka njira yolumikizirana yopitilira mawu omwe timanena kuphatikiza momwe timayankhulira komanso momwe timadziwonetsera tokha polumikizana ndi ena.
Kupitilira mawu: luso lakumvetsera mwachidwi
Boothman akuwonetsa mu “Kutsimikizira mu Mphindi 2” kuti kukopa sikungothera pa momwe timalankhulira ndi kuperekera, komanso kumafikira ku momwe timamvera. Limayambitsa lingaliro la “kumvetsera mwachidwi,” njira yomwe imalimbikitsa osati kungomva mawu a munthu wina, komanso kumvetsetsa cholinga cha mawuwo.
Boothman akugogomezera kufunika kofunsa mafunso omasuka, omwe sangathe kuyankhidwa ndi "inde" kapena "ayi". Mafunsowa amalimbikitsa kukambirana mozama ndipo amapangitsa wofunsidwayo kumva kuti ndi wofunika komanso womvetsetsa.
Limafotokozanso kufunika kobwereza mawu, kutanthauza kubwereza zimene munthu wina ananena m’mawu athuathu. Izi zikusonyeza osati kuti tikumvetsera, komanso kuti tikufuna kumvetsa.
Pomaliza, Boothman akumaliza ndi kutsindika kuti kunyengerera sikungosinthana chabe chidziwitso. Ndi za kupanga ubale weniweni waumunthu, womwe umafuna chifundo chenicheni ndi kumvetsetsa zosowa ndi zokhumba za munthu wina.
Bukhuli ndi mgodi wa golide wa chidziwitso kwa aliyense amene akufuna kupititsa patsogolo luso lawo loyankhulana ndi kunyengerera, kaya pazantchito kapena payekha. Zikuwonekeratu kuti chinsinsi chokhutiritsa pasanathe mphindi ziwiri si Chinsinsi chachinsinsi, koma luso lomwe lingaphunzire ndikukulitsidwa ndikuchita.
Ndipo musaiwale, mutha kukulitsa kumvetsetsa kwanu kwa njirazi pomvera buku la "Convincing in Under 2 Minutes" lonse kudzera muvidiyoyi. Osadikiriranso, dziwani momwe mungasinthire luso lanu lokopa ndikukhala ndi chidwi chokhalitsa pasanathe mphindi ziwiri!
