Lise Bourbeau ndi Ulendo Wake Wakukhudzika Kudzikonda
"Mabala a 5 omwe amakulepheretsani kukhala nokha" ndi buku la Lise Bourbeau, wokamba nkhani komanso wolemba wotchuka padziko lonse lapansi. Bourbeau amafufuza m'bukuli zilonda zam'maganizo zomwe zimatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo weniweni komanso kuchoka kufotokoza tokha m’moyo wathu.
Lise Bourbeau amatitsogolera paulendo wodzizindikiritsa tokha, kuwulula mabala asanu ofunikira omwe amawongolera machitidwe athu ndikulepheretsa kukula kwathu. Mabala awa, omwe amawatcha kukanidwa, kusiyidwa, kunyozedwa, kuperekedwa ndi kupanda chilungamo, ndizofunikira kuti timvetsetse momwe timachitira ndi zochitika pamoyo.
Kwa Bourbeau, mabala awa amadziwonetsera okha ngati masks, machitidwe omwe amatengedwa kuti adziteteze ndikupewa kuvulazidwanso. Potero, timadzitalikitsa ku chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni, timadzichotsera tokha kuthekera kokhala ndi moyo weniweni komanso wolemeretsa.
Bourbeau imapereka mawonekedwe apadera komanso owunikira pazovuta zathu zamkati, mantha ndi kusatetezeka. Samangopereka tsatanetsatane wa mabala amalingaliro awa, komanso amapereka njira zowagonjetsa.
Zimatilimbikitsa kuyang'anizana ndi mabala athu, kuvomereza malingaliro athu ndi kulandira chiwopsezo chathu. Mwa kuvomereza ndi kuphatikiza mbali zimenezi za ife eni, tingatsegule chitseko cha moyo weniweni, wodzala ndi chikondi ndi chisangalalo.
Kuwerenga ndikofunikira kwa aliyense amene akufuna kudzimvetsetsa bwino ndikuyamba njira yochiritsira komanso kudzizindikira.
Kuzindikira ndi Kuchiritsa Mabala Athu Amalingaliro
Mu "Mabala a 5 omwe amakulepheretsani kukhala nokha", Lise Bourbeau samangofotokoza mabala ofunikirawa, amaperekanso njira zogwirika zowazindikira ndi kuwachiritsa.
Chilonda chilichonse chili ndi mawonekedwe ake komanso masks ogwirizana. Bourbeau amawafotokozera mwatsatanetsatane kuti atithandize kuwazindikira pamakhalidwe athu atsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachitsanzo, omwe amavala chigoba cha "kuthawa" nthawi zambiri amanyamula bala la kukanidwa, pamene iwo omwe amatengera khalidwe la "masochist" angakhale ndi bala la manyazi.
Lise Bourbeau akuwunikira kugwirizana komwe kulipo pakati pa kudwala kwathu ndi mabala athu amalingaliro. Makhalidwe athu, malingaliro, ngakhalenso matupi athu angasonyeze mabala athu osathetsedwa. Mwachitsanzo, munthu yemwe ali ndi chilonda chachinyengo akhoza kukhala ndi mawonekedwe a V, pamene munthu yemwe ali ndi chilonda chopanda chilungamo akhoza kukhala ndi mawonekedwe a A.
Kuphatikiza pa chizindikiritso chovulala, Bourbeau imapereka zida zoyambira machiritso. Iye akugogomezera kufunika kwa kudzivomereza, kulola kupita ndi kukhululuka pochiritsa mabala amalingaliro awa.
Wolembayo akuwonetsa zochitika zowonera ndi kusinkhasinkha, zomwe zimatilola kuti tizilumikizana ndi mwana wathu wamkati, kumumvera ndikuyankha zosowa zake zosakwanira. Pochita izi, tingayambe kuchiritsa mabala akuyawo ndikudzimasula ku masks athu oteteza.
Kutengera Kumasulira Kwabwino Kwa Inu Nokha
Mu gawo lomaliza la "Zilonda za 5 zomwe zimatilepheretsa kukhala tokha", Bourbeau amatilimbikitsa kuti nthawi zonse tizifunafuna kukwaniritsidwa kwaumwini ndi kukula. Kuchiritsa mabala ndi njira yopitilira yomwe imafuna nthawi, kuleza mtima, ndi kudzimvera chisoni.
Wolembayo akugogomezera kufunikira kwa kukhulupirika ndi kuwona mtima kwa iwe mwini. Sikuti kukhala munthu wina, koma kumasuka ku masks ndi chitetezo chomwe tapanga kuti tidziteteze. Mwa kuyang’anizana ndi mabala athu ndi kuwachiritsa, tingayandikire kwa ife eni enieni.
Bourbeau amagogomezeranso kufunikira kwa kuyamikira ndi kudzikonda pa machiritso. Iye amatikumbutsa kuti vuto lililonse limene takumana nalo latilimbikitsa komanso kutiphunzitsa mfundo yofunika kwambiri. Tikazindikira zimenezi, tikhoza kuona zilonda zathu m’njira yatsopano n’kuyamba kuyamikira zimene taphunzira.
Pamapeto pake, "Zilonda 5 Zomwe Zimakulepheretsani Kukhala Wekha" zimapereka njira yosinthira munthu ndikukula. Bukuli limatithandiza kumvetsa mabala athu a m’maganizo, kuwavomereza ndi kuwachiritsa. Uwu ndi ulendo womwe ungakhale wovuta, koma wopindulitsa chifukwa umatitsogolera ku mtundu wabwino wa ife tokha.
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