Ukuchaza kabusha ingxoxo nethi “Ungalokothi Usike Ipheya Ngesigamu”
"Ungalokothi Usike Ipheya Ngesigamu," umhlahlandlela obhalwe ngobuciko kaChris Voss noTahl Raz, uletha umbono omusha kubuciko bezingxoxo. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukwabelana ngokufanele, le ncwadi ikufundisa ukuthi ungazulazula kanjani ngobuqili ukuya thola okufunayo.
Ababhali basebenzisa ulwazi lukaVoss njengomxoxisi wamazwe ngamazwe we-FBI, ehlinzeka ngamasu ahlolwe isikhathi ezingxoxo eziyimpumelelo, kungaba okokukhushulwa kweholo noma ukuxazulula ingxabano yehhovisi. Omunye wemibono eyinhloko yale ncwadi ukuthi zonke izingxoxo zisekelwe emizweni, hhayi ukucabanga. Ukuqonda imizwa yomunye umuntu nokuyisebenzisa ukuze uzuze kungakunikeza isiqalo.
Lena akuyona incwadi evele ifundise ukuthi 'ungawina' kanjani. Ikubonisa ukuthi ungenza kanjani izimo eziwinayo ngokugcizelela nokuqonda elinye iqembu. Kuncane mayelana nokusika ipheya phakathi, okuningi mayelana nokwenza ingxenye ngayinye izizwe yanelisekile. UVoss ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokulalela ngenkuthalo, ikhono elivame ukunganakwa kodwa elibalulekile kunoma yikuphi ukuxoxisana. Usikhumbuza ukuthi umgomo wokuxoxisana awukona ukuthola okufunayo ngazo zonke izindleko, kodwa ukuthola indawo efanayo esebenza kubo bonke ababambiqhaza.
Ukungalisika ipheya phakathi kuwushintsho oluphelele emhlabeni wokuhweba. Amasu anikezwe encwadini awasizi nje kuphela ezweni lebhizinisi, kodwa futhi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uxoxisana nozakwenu mayelana nokuthi ubani ozowasha izitsha noma uzama ukukholisa ingane yakho ukuthi yenze umsebenzi wayo wesikole, le ncwadi inokuthile kwawo wonke umuntu.
Amasu Afakazelwe Okuxoxisana Ngempumelelo
Ku-"Ungalokothi Usike Ipheya Ngesigamu," uChris Voss wabelana ngenqwaba yamasu namaqhinga ahloliwe futhi afakazelwa. Le ncwadi ithinta imiqondo efana nethiyori yesibuko, i-tacit “yebo,” kanye nobuciko bokuvumela okubaliwe, ukubala okumbalwa.
U-Voss ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokubonisa uzwela phakathi nezingxoxo, iseluleko esibonakala siphikisa ekuqaleni. Nokho, njengoba echaza, ukuqonda nokusabela emizweni yomunye umuntu kungaba ithuluzi elinamandla ekufinyeleleni isivumelwano esizuzisayo.
Ukwengeza, uVoss wethula ithiyori yesibuko - inqubo ebandakanya ukuphinda amagama okugcina noma imisho yombuzo wakho ukuze umkhuthaze ukuthi aveze ulwazi olwengeziwe. Le ndlela elula, kodwa ephumelelayo ngokuvamile ingaholela ekuphumeleleni ezingxoxweni ezishubile kakhulu.
Indlela ethule ethi “yebo” ingelinye isu elibalulekile okuxoxwe ngalo encwadini. Kunokuba afune u-“yebo” oqondile ongase ngokuvamile uholele esiphethweni, uVoss uphakamisa ukuthi kuhloswe “amayese” amathathu angasho lutho. Lezi ziqinisekiso ezingaqondile zingasiza ekwakheni ukuxhumana nokwethembana, kwenze kube lula ukuthola isivumelwano sokugcina.
Ekugcineni, le ncwadi isikhanyisela ngobuciko bemvume yokubalwa. Esikhundleni sokwenza ukuvumelana okungahleliwe ngethemba lesivumelwano, uVoss uncoma ukunikeza okuthile okunenani eliphakeme elibonakalayo komunye umuntu, kodwa inani eliphansi kuwe. Leli qhinga ngokuvamile lingasiza ekuvaleni isivumelwano ngaphandle kokuthi ulahlekelwe.
Izifundo ezitholakala emhlabeni wangempela
"Ungalokothi usike ipheya phakathi" akweneliswanga imibono engabonakali; liphinde linikeze izibonelo eziphathekayo ezivela emhlabeni wangempela. UChris Voss wabelana ngezindaba eziningi ezivela emsebenzini wakhe wokuxoxisana we-FBI, ebonisa ukuthi izimiso azifundisayo zisetshenziswe kanjani ezimweni zokuphila nokufa.
Lezi zindaba zinikeza izifundo ezibalulekile zokuthi imizwa ingaba nomthelela kanjani ezingxoxweni nokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ukuze uzuze. Abafundi bazofunda ukuthi ungahlala kanjani uzolile futhi ugxile ezimeni ezicindezelayo, ukusingatha kanjani ubuntu obunzima, nendlela yokuzulazula ezimweni eziyinkimbinkimbi ukuze uthole imiphumela engcono kakhulu.
Ama-akhawunti kaVoss aphinde abonise ukusebenza kahle kwamasu awatusayo. Ibonisa, isibonelo, ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwenqubo yesibuko kwasiza kanjani ekudambiseni izimo ezishubile zokuthunjwa, ukuthi ubuciko bokuvumela ukubalwa buholele kanjani emiphumeleni emihle ezingxoxweni ezinobungozi obukhulu, kanye nokuthi ukusesha "yebo" okungenangqondo kwasiza kanjani sungula ubudlelwano bokuthembana nabantu ekuqaleni abanobutha.
Ngokwabelana ngolwazi lwakhe lomuntu siqu, uVoss wenza okuqukethwe kwencwadi yakhe kufinyeleleke kakhudlwana futhi kuhehe. Abafundi abagcini nje ngokugcwala imibono; bayabona ukuthi lezi zimiso zisebenza kanjani ngokoqobo. Le ndlela yokwenza imiqondo ethi "Ungalokothi Usike Ipheya Ngaphakathi" ingathakazelisi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi ibaluleke kakhulu kulabo abafuna ukuthuthukisa amakhono abo okuxoxisana.
Ukufundwa okuphelele kwencwadi ethi “Ungalokothi Usike Ipheya Ngesigamu” kunconywa kakhulu ukuze uzuze ngokugcwele kulwazi lukaChris Voss. Njengomqalisi, sikumema ukuthi ulalele ividiyo engezansi enikeza ukulalela izahluko zokuqala zencwadi. Kodwa khumbula, akukho okungathatha indawo yokufunda yonke incwadi ukuze uthole ukucwiliswa okuphelele nokuqonda okujulile.
