Okuyisisekelo Kokuthonya Abanye
Incwadi kaDale Carnegie ethi, How to Make Friends yanyatheliswa okokuqala ngo-1936. Nokho izimfundiso zayo zisabalulekile ezweni lethu lanamuhla, ngokusekelwe ezimisweni zeukusebenzelana kwabantu kwendawo yonke.
Omunye wezimiso eziyisisekelo uCarnegie awukhuthazayo umqondo wokuba nesithakazelo esiqotho kwabanye. Akukhona mayelana nokwenza sengathi unentshisekelo yokukhohlisa abantu, kodwa mayelana nokuhlakulela isifiso sangempela sokuqonda abantu abaseduze nawe. Kuyiseluleko esilula, kodwa esinamandla esinamandla okuguqula kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho.
Ukwengeza, uCarnegie ukhuthaza ukubonisa ukwazisa kwabanye. Esikhundleni sokugxeka noma ukugxeka, uhlongoza ukubonga okuqotho. Kungaba nomthelela omkhulu endleleni obhekwa ngayo kanye nekhwalithi yobudlelwano bakho.
Izindlela zokuthola uzwelo
I-Carnegie inikeza nochungechunge lwezindlela ezisebenzayo zokuthola uzwela lwabanye. Lezi zindlela zihlanganisa ukubaluleka kokumamatheka, ukukhumbula nokusebenzisa amagama abantu, nokukhuthaza abanye ukuba bakhulume ngabo. Lezi zindlela ezilula, kodwa ezisebenzayo zingenza ukusebenzisana kwakho kube kuhle futhi kwakhiwe.
Amasu okukholisa
Le ncwadi iphinde inikeze namasu okukholisa abantu nokubenza bamukele umbono wakho. Esikhundleni sokuphikisana ngokuqondile, uCarnegie utusa ukubonisa inhlonipho ngemibono yabanye kuqala. Uphakamisa nokwenza umuntu azizwe ebalulekile ngokulalelisisa nokwazisa imibono yakhe.
Ziphathise ukuba umholi
Engxenyeni yokugcina yencwadi, uCarnegie ugxile emakhono obuholi. Ugcizelela ukuthi ukuba ngumholi ophumelelayo kuqala ngesasasa elikhuthazayo, hhayi ukubeka uvalo. Abaholi abahlonipha futhi babazisa abantu babo bavame ukuzuza imiphumela emihle kakhulu.
Hlola kuvidiyo "Ubenza kanjani abangani"
Ngemva kokubhekana nalezi zindlela eziyisisekelo nezindlela ezisebenzayo, ungase ube nelukuluku lokuhlola yonke incwadi ka-Dale Carnegie ethi How to Make Friends. Leli bhuku liyimayini yegolide eyiqiniso yawo wonke umuntu ofuna ukuthuthukisa ukusebenzisana kwakhe nomphakathi futhi andise umbuthano wabo wabangane.
Ngenhlanhla, sishumeke ividiyo ngezansi enikeza ukufundwa okugcwele kwencwadi. Zinike isikhathi sokuyilalela futhi uma kungenzeka uyifunde, uthole ngokujulile izifundo eziyigugu zikaCarnegie. Ukulalela le ncwadi ngeke kukusize nje ukwakha amakhono akho okuxhumana nabantu, kodwa futhi kukwenze ube umholi ohlonishwayo nohlonishwayo emphakathini wakho.
Futhi khumbula, umlingo wangempela othi "Indlela Yokwenza Abangane" ulele ekuzilolongeni ngokungaguquki amasu ethulwayo. Ngakho-ke, ungangabazi ukubuyela kulezi zimiso futhi uzisebenzise ekuhlanganyeleni kwakho kwansuku zonke. Empumelelweni yakho kwezobuciko bobudlelwano babantu!
