ʻO nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālike maikaʻi e pale aku ma ka hopena o ka leka uila
ʻO nā ʻōlelo hoʻohana ʻole, nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike maikaʻi ʻole, nā pōkole a i ʻole ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana o nā formula… E loaʻa iā ʻoe ka nui ma ka hoʻopili ʻana i nā formulas ma ka hopena o ka leka uila. ʻO ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā pahuhopu i hoʻoikaika i ke koho ʻana i ka leka uila. Inā he limahana keʻena ʻoe a i ʻole ka leka uila mau no ka hana, nou kēia ʻatikala. E hoʻomaikaʻi ʻiʻo nō ʻoe i kāu ʻoihana palapala.
ʻO kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o nā ʻōkuhi āu e koho ʻole ai
He mea nui ka pahee a aloha ma ka hope o ka leka uila, ʻaʻole wale kekahi.
Nā huaʻōlelo maʻamau a i ʻole nā huaʻōlelo pono ʻole
ʻO ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi leka uila ʻoihana me kahi ʻano hoʻohālikelike e hāʻawi i ka mea hoʻouna i ka hōʻoia o ka heluhelu ʻana a me ka hōʻike ʻana i ka mea i loaʻa i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia iā ia. Eia nō naʻe, ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano stereotypical e like me: "Ke waiho nei ma kou makemake no kekahi ʻike hou aʻe ...", nui ka manawa ʻaʻole e heluhelu ʻia. He mea maʻamau nō ia.
Pono e pale ʻia nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike ma ka hope o ka leka uila i hana ʻia me nā ʻōlelo kūpono ʻole. ʻAʻole wale lākou e hoʻohui i ka waiwai hoʻohui i ka memo, ʻike ʻole lākou a hiki ke hōʻino i ka mea hoʻouna.
Nā kumu hoʻohālikelike
Ma waho aʻe o ka pōʻaiapili hoʻoponopono, ua hoʻokumu ʻia e nā haʻawina he hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kā mākou subconscious. Akā, koi lākou e hana i ka mea i pāpā ʻia ma mua o ka pale ʻana. ʻO ka hopena, ʻo nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiwahiwa e like me "E ʻoluʻolu e kelepona mai iaʻu" a i ʻole "E hōʻoia mākou e ..." ʻaʻole i kono ʻia a ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa ka hopena kū'ē.
Nā ʻōkuhi ma ke ʻano kumulative
ʻAʻole pōʻino ka nui o ka maikaʻi, wahi a lākou. Akā he aha kā mākou e hana ai me kēia ʻōlelo Latin "Virtus stat in medio" (Virtue in the middle)? Ua lawa ka ʻōlelo ʻana e hiki ke koho ʻia nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike i ka pōʻaiapili, i ka wā e hōʻiliʻili ai lākou, hiki ke lilo i mea ʻole.
No laila, pono e pale ʻia nā ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano e like me "E ʻike koke iā ʻoe, he lā maikaʻi, aloha" a i ʻole "La maikaʻi loa, me ka mahalo." Akā, he aha ke ʻano o ka politeness e lawe ai?
Akā, koho i kēia mau ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano
Ke kali nei ʻoe i kahi pane mai kāu mea kākau, ʻo ka mea kūpono ke ʻōlelo: "Ke kali nei i kou hoʻi ʻana, e ʻoluʻolu ...". ʻO nā ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano ʻē aʻe e hōʻike i kou loaʻa ʻana, "E ʻoluʻolu e ʻike hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokaʻaʻike mai iā mākou" a i ʻole "Ke kono nei mākou iā ʻoe e hoʻopili iā mākou".
Pono e hoʻohana ʻia nā ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano e like me "Hoalohaloha" a i ʻole "La lā maikaʻi" inā ua maʻa mua ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ka mea loaʻa.
ʻO nā ʻōlelo hoʻohanohano "ʻOiaʻiʻo" a i ʻole "Very cordially", kūpono lākou i nā kūlana āu i kamaʻilio mua ai i kekahi mau manawa me kāu interlocutor.
E pili ana i ke ʻano hoʻohālikelike "ʻOiaʻiʻo," pono ʻoe e ʻike he ʻoluʻolu a me ke kūlana. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka mea i loaʻa, hiki ke hoʻohana pono ʻia kēia ʻano.
