Charisma decoded: kuposa kukhalapo, ubale
Charisma nthawi zambiri imawonedwa ngati mphatso yobadwa nayo, chinthu chomwe munthu ali nacho kapena alibe. Komabe, François Aélion, m'buku lake "Le charisme Relationnel", amakayikira lingaliro ili. Malinga ndi iye, charisma sikuti ndi aura yachinsinsi, koma zotsatira za ubale womwe umamangidwa ndi iwe komanso ndi ena.
Aélion akugogomezera kufunikira kwa kulumikizana kowona. M'dziko lolamulidwa ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi anthu ongoyerekezera, m'pofunika kukulitsa maubwenzi ozama komanso opindulitsa. Kuwona uku, kuthekera uku kukhalapo ndikumvetsera moona mtima, ndiye chinsinsi cha chisangalalo chenicheni.
Kuwona sikungowonekeratu. Ndiko kumvetsetsa kwakuya za zomwe munthu amazikonda, zokhumba zake ndi zolephera zake. Mukamachita maubale ndi zowona zenizeni, mumalimbikitsa chikhulupiriro. Anthu amakopeka ndi izi, osati masewera chabe.
François Aélion amapita patsogolo pokhazikitsa mgwirizano pakati pa charisma ndi utsogoleri. Mtsogoleri wachikoka sali kwenikweni amene amalankhula mokweza kwambiri kapena kutenga malo ambiri. Ndi munthu amene, kupyolera mwa kukhalapo kwake kowona, amapanga malo omwe ena amamva kuwonedwa, kumva ndi kumvetsetsa.
Ntchitoyi ikutikumbutsa kuti chikoka sichimathera pachokha. Ndi chida, luso lomwe lingakulitsidwe. Ndipo monga luso lililonse, pamafunika kuyeserera komanso kudzifufuza. Pamapeto pake, chisangalalo chenicheni ndi chomwe chimakweza ena, kulimbikitsa, ndikubweretsa kusintha kwabwino.
Kukulitsa chidaliro ndi kumvetsera: Mizati yachisangalalo chaubale
Kupitiliza njira yake yowunikira zachisangalalo, François Aélion akuyang'ana kwambiri zipilala ziwiri zofunika pomanga chikoka cha ubalewu: kudalira ndi kumvetsera. Malinga ndi wolemba, zinthu izi ndizo maziko a ubale uliwonse weniweni, kaya waubwenzi, akatswiri kapena okondana.
Chikhulupiliro ndi gawo lamitundumitundu. Zimayamba ndi kudzidalira, kutha kukhulupirira zomwe munthu amafunikira komanso luso lake. Komabe, kumakhudzanso kukhulupirira ena. Ndi kuyanjana uku komwe kumapangitsa kukhala kotheka kukhazikitsa maubwenzi olimba komanso okhalitsa. Aélion akutsindika kuti kukhulupirirana ndi ndalama. Zimamangidwa pakapita nthawi, kudzera muzochita zokhazikika komanso zolinga zomveka.
Kumvetsera, kumbali yake, kaŵirikaŵiri kumaonedwa mopepuka. M'dziko limene aliyense amafuna kufotokoza maganizo ake, kupeza nthawi yomvetsera mwachidwi kwakhala kosowa. Aélion amapereka njira ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti akulitse kumvetsera mwachidwi, zomwe zimapitirira kuposa kungomva chabe. Ndiko kumvetsetsa momwe munthu wina amaonera, kumva maganizo awo, ndi kupereka yankho loyenera.
Ukwati wokhulupirirana ndi kumvetsera umapanga zomwe Aélion amachitcha "chisangalalo cha ubale". Sichikopa chongoyerekeza, koma kuthekera kozama kolumikizana, kumvetsetsa ndi kukopa anthu omwe akuzungulirani. Mwa kukulitsa zipilala ziŵirizi, munthu aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi chisonkhezero chachibadwa, chozikidwa pa kulemekezana ndi kukhulupirika.
Kupitilira mawu: Mphamvu yamalingaliro komanso osalankhula
M'chigawo chomaliza cha kufufuza kwake, François Aélion akuwulula mbali yomwe nthawi zambiri imanyalanyazidwa pa chiyanjano: kulankhulana kosalankhula komanso nzeru zamaganizo. Mosiyana ndi zimene anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, chikoka sichimangotanthauza kulankhula bwino kapena kulankhula mochititsa chidwi. Zimakhalanso mu zomwe sizinanenedwe, mu luso la kukhalapo.
Aélion akufotokoza kuti pafupifupi 70% ya kulankhulana kwathu sikungolankhula. Manja athu, maonekedwe a nkhope, kaimidwe, ngakhale kamvekedwe ka mawu athu kaŵirikaŵiri amanena zambiri kuposa mawu enieniwo. Kugwirana chanza kosavuta kapena kuyang'ana kungakhazikitse mgwirizano wakuya kapena, m'malo mwake, kupanga chotchinga chosagonjetseka.
Nzeru za m'malingaliro ndi luso lozindikira, kumvetsetsa ndikuwongolera malingaliro athu, pomwe timamvera za ena. Aelion akuwonetsa kuti iyi ndiye chinsinsi choyendetsera mwaluso dziko lovuta la maubwenzi a anthu. Mwa kumvetsera malingaliro athu ndi a ena, titha kupanga mayanjano owona, achifundo komanso olemeretsa.
François Aélion akumaliza ndikukumbukira kuti chikoka chaubale chili chotheka kwa aliyense. Si khalidwe lobadwa nalo, koma luso lomwe lingapangidwe ndi kutsimikiza, kuzindikira ndi kuchita. Pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zakukhudzidwa komanso kulankhulana kosalankhula, tonse titha kukhala atsogoleri achikoka m'miyoyo yathu.
Dziwani zomvera za "Relational Charisma" lolemba François Aélion. Uwu ndi mwayi wosowa womvetsera buku lonse ndikuzama mu zinsinsi za Relational Charisma.
