Ziva Hunyanzvi hwekufurira naDale Carnegie
Ndiani asina kumboshuva kuva neshamwari dzakawanda, kukosheswa kana kuti kuva nepesvedzero huru pavanhu vakavapoteredza? Mukutengesa kwake zvakanyanya "Maitiro Ekuita Shamwari uye Kufurira Vamwe," Dale Carnegie anopa gwara rakakosha kune chero munhu anotarisa vandudza unyanzvi hwemagariro evanhu hunodiwa. Kubva pakubudiswa kwaro muna 1936, bhuku racho rakabatsira mamiriyoni evanhu pasi pose kuti vave noukama huri nani, varemekedzwe uye vayemurwe, uye vave nepesvedzero yakanaka kune vaya vakavapoteredza.
Carnegie, munyori weAmerica ane mukurumbira uye mudzidzisi wekusimudzira uye kutaurirana kwevanhu, anopa nhevedzano yemisimboti uye nzira dzekukunda ushamwari hwevamwe, achivakurudzira nenzira yakanaka uye kutonga hukama hwevanhu zvinobudirira. Bhuku rake, rakapfava asi rakadzama, rinoramba riri chinhu chinodiwa kune avo vese vanoshuvira kuita zvakanaka mukudyidzana kwavo nemagariro nehunyanzvi.
Panzvimbo pokuvimbisa migumisiro inokurumidza uye iri nyore, Carnegie anosimbisa ukoshi hwokutendeseka, ruremekedzo, uye itiro hanya yapachokwadi nokuda kwavamwe. Zvinotiyeuchidza kuti pesvedzero yechokwadi inobva mukukwanisa kunzwisisa uye kukoshesa vanhu vakatipoteredza. Bhuku rino haringori gwara rekuita shamwari, asi bhuku rekushandisa kuti uve munhu ari nani.
Makiyi ekukunda ushamwari uye kuyemurwa nevamwe
Dale Carnegie akapedza nguva yakawanda yehupenyu hwake kunzwisisa zvakavanzika zvekubudirira kushamwaridzana kwevanhu. Muna “Maitiro Ekuita Shamwari uye Kupesvedzera Vamwe,” anogovera misimboti inokosha pakuita batano yakanaka navanhu vakatipoteredza. Chekutanga uye zvichida chinonyanya kukosha panheyo idzi kukosha kwekuitira hanya vamwe zvechokwadi.
Carnegie akaomerera pakuti hatigoni kunyandura fariro yavamwe kana isu timene tisingavafariri. Izvi hazvirevi kubvunza mibvunzo kuti uite seunofarira. Asi, iri pamusoro pokukudziridza fariro yechokwadi muvanhu noupenyu hwavo. Nokuratidza tsitsi uye kuda kuziva, tinokurudzira vamwe kuti vasununguke uye vataure zvakawanda pamusoro pavo.
Mukuwedzera pakutarisira vamwe, Carnegie anosimbisa kukosha kwekukoshesa vamwe uye kuita kuti vanzwe vakakosha. Zvinogona kunge zviri nyore sekubvuma zvakaitwa nevamwe kana kuvarumbidza pane chavakaita zvakanaka. Nekuita izvi, isu hatingovabatsira chete kunzwa zvakanaka pamusoro pavo, asi isu tinogadzirawo hukama hwakanaka navo.
Imwe musimboti wakakosha kunzvenga kushoropodza, kushora kana kunyunyuta. Zviito izvi zvinongosundira vanhu kure uye zvinokonzeresa kusawirirana. Pane kudaro, Carnegie anoratidza kunzwisisa uye kukanganwira kukanganisa kwevamwe, uye kuvakurudzira kuchinja maitiro avo nenzira dzakanaka.
Nzira yekukurudzira vamwe zvakanaka nekuvandudza kutaurirana kwako
Dale Carnegie akagoverawo mazano akawanda ekuti ungakurudzira sei vamwe zvakanaka. Imwe yemazano ake ane simba ndeyekugara achiratidza kuonga vamwe. Anosimbisa kuti munhu mumwe nomumwe anofanira kunzwa achikosheswa uye achikosheswa.
Carnegie anopawo kuvandudza unyanzvi hwedu hwekutaura nekutaura nenzira inofadza uye inobata. Anotaura kuti tinofanira kugara tichiedza kuona zvinhu nemaonero omumwe munhu. Izvi zvichatibatsira kunzwisisa zviri nani zvavanoda nezvavanoda, uye zvinotibvumira kutaura navo zvinobudirira.
Bhuku racho rinosimbisawo kukosha kwekunyemwerera uye kuratidza mafungiro akanaka. Carnegie anosimbirira kuti kunyemwerera ndeimwe yemashoko ane simba zvikuru atinogona kupa kune vamwe. Kunyemwerera kwechokwadi kunogona kuputsa zvipingamupinyi, kugadzira kubatana nekukurumidza, uye kuita kuti vamwe vagamuchire pfungwa nemazano edu.
Uyezve, Carnegie anotsanangura kuti kuti tifurire vamwe, tinofanira kuvakurudzira uye kuvakoshesa. Panzvimbo pokutsoropodza zvikanganiso, anokurudzira kuratidza zvakanaka uye kupa mazano anovaka ekuvandudza.
Pakupedzisira, Carnegie anopa zano rinokurudzira chido mune vamwe pane kuvamanikidza kuita neimwe nzira. Anotaura kuti tinofanira kuita kuti mumwe munhu ade zvatinenge tichipa, tichimuratidza kubatsirwa uye mibayiro yaanogona kuwana.
Nokushandisa matipi aya muhupenyu hwedu hwezuva nezuva, hatigone kungopesvedzera vamwe zvakanaka chete, asiwo kuvandudza zvakanyanya hunyanzvi hwedu hwekutaurirana.
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