Cacisa kwakhona uthethathethwano kunye “Ungaze Wahlule ipere kubini”
"Ungaze Wahlukanise iiPeas", isikhokelo esibhalwe ngobuchule nguChris Voss kunye noTahl Raz, izisa imbono entsha kubugcisa bothethathethwano. Endaweni yokuzama ukwabelana ngokufanelekileyo, le ncwadi ikufundisa indlela yokuhamba ngobuchule ukuya fumana into oyifunayo.
Ababhali bazoba kumava kaVoss njengomxoxisi wezizwe ngezizwe we-FBI, ebonelela ngezicwangciso ezivavanywe ixesha lothethathethwano oluyimpumelelo, nokuba kukunyuswa kwentlawulo okanye ukusombulula ingxabano yeofisi. Enye yeengcamango eziphambili zale ncwadi kukuba zonke iingxoxo zisekelwe kwiimvakalelo, kungekhona kwingqiqo. Ukuqonda iimvakalelo zomnye umntu nokuzisebenzisa ukuze kungenelwe wena kunokukunika isiqalo.
Le ayisiyoncwadi ekufundisa ngokulula indlela 'yokuphumelela'. Ikubonisa indlela yokudala iimeko zokuphumelela ngokugxininisa kunye nokuqonda elinye iqela. Kuncinci malunga nokwahlula ipere kwaye ngaphezulu malunga nokwenza iqela ngalinye lizive lanelisekile. UVoss ugxininisa ukubaluleka kokumamela ngenkuthalo, isakhono esisoloko singahoywa kodwa esiyimfuneko kulo naluphi na uthethathethwano. Isikhumbuza ukuba injongo yothethathethwano ayikokufumana into oyifunayo kuzo zonke iindleko, kodwa kukufumana indawo efanayo esebenza kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba.
Ukungahluli ipere kubini kutshintsha ngokupheleleyo imeko kwihlabathi lothethathethwano. Izicwangciso ezichazwe kwincwadi azikho luncedo kuphela kwihlabathi lezoshishino, kodwa nakwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Nokuba uthethathethana neqabane lakho malunga nokuba ngubani oza kuhlamba izitya okanye uzama ukukholisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wesikolo wasekhaya, le ncwadi inento enokunika wonke umntu.
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Kwi "Ungaze Wahlukanise Ipere," uChris Voss wabelana ngobuchule kunye namaqhinga avavanyiweyo kwaye angqinwa ebaleni. Le ncwadi igubungela iikhonsepthi ezifana nethiyori yesipili, u-"ewe" ongathethwanga, kunye nobugcisa bomnyinyiva obaliweyo, ukukhankanya ezimbalwa.
I-Voss igxininisa ukubaluleka kokubonisa uvelwano ngexesha lothetha-thethwano, iingcebiso ezibonakala ziphikisana nokuqala. Noko ke, njengoko echaza, ukuqonda nokusabela kwiimvakalelo zelinye iqela kunokuba sisixhobo esinamandla sokufikelela kwisivumelwano esiyingenelo ngokufanayo.
Ukongeza, uVoss wazisa ithiyori yesipili-ubuchule obubandakanya ukuphinda amagama okugqibela okanye amabinzana omntu othetha naye ukuze ubakhuthaze ukuba baveze ulwazi oluninzi. Le ndlela ilula, kodwa esebenzayo ngokufuthi inokukhokelela kwimpumelelo nakwezona ngxoxo zinzima.
Ubuchwephesha obuthi "ewe" sesinye isicwangciso esiphambili esixoxwe kwincwadi. Kunokuba ujonge u-ewe othe ngqo onokuthi ukhokelele kungquzulwano, uVoss ucebisa ukuba kujongwe oo “ewe” abathathu abangathethwanga. Ezi ziqinisekiso zingathanga ngqo zinokunceda ukwakha unxibelelwano olulinganayo kunye nokuthembana, kwenze kube lula ukufikelela kwisivumelwano sokugqibela.
Ekugqibeleni, le ncwadi ibalaselisa ubugcisa bokubalwa komnyinyiva. Endaweni yokwenza iminyinyiva engacwangciswanga ngethemba lesivumelwano, uVoss ucebisa ukunika into enexabiso eliphezulu elibonakalayo kwelinye iqela, kodwa ixabiso eliphantsi kuwe. Eli qhinga linokuhlala linceda ukuvala isivumelwano ngaphandle kokuba uphulukane.
Izifundo ezifunyenwe kwihlabathi lokwenyani
“Ungaze uwahlule kubini ipere” akonelisekanga ziithiyori ezingabonakaliyo; ikwanika imizekelo ebambekayo evela kwihlabathi lokwenyani. UChris Voss wabelana ngamabali amaninzi kumsebenzi wakhe njengothethathethwano we-FBI, ebonisa indlela imigaqo ayifundisayo esetyenziswe ngayo kwiimeko zobomi nokufa.
La mabali anikela izifundo ezibalulekileyo malunga nendlela iimvakalelo ezinokuphembelela ngayo uthethathethwano nendlela yokuzisebenzisa ukuze kulungelwe wena. Abafundi baya kufunda ukuhlala uzolile kwaye ugxile kwiimeko ezixineneyo, indlela yokujongana nobuntu obunzima, kunye nendlela yokujonga iimeko ezinzima ukufikelela ezona ziphumo zibalaseleyo.
Amabali kaVoss akwanceda ukubonisa ukusebenza kweendlela azicebisayo. Ubonisa, umzekelo, indlela ukusetyenziswa kobuchule besipili obuncede ngayo ukuthomalalisa iimeko zokuthinjwa, indlela ubugcisa bokubalwa kwemvumelwano obuncede ngayo ukufikelela kwiziphumo ezincumisayo kuthethwano olunomngcipheko omkhulu, kunye nendlela ukukhangela “ewe” ongathethiyo okwanceda ngayo ukuseka ubudlelwane ukuthembela kubantu abanobutshaba ekuqaleni.
Ngokwabelana ngamava akhe obuqu, uVoss wenza umxholo wencwadi yakhe ufikeleleke ngakumbi kwaye ubandakanye. Abafundi abajongwa nje ngeethiyori; bayayibona indlela le migaqo esebenza ngayo ngokwenene. Le ndlela yokwenza iikhonsepthi "Ungaze wahlule amapere" angabinamdla kuphela, kodwa axabiseke kakhulu kwabo bajonge ukuphucula izakhono zabo zokuthethathethana.
Ukufundwa okupheleleyo kwencwadi ethi “Ungaze Usike Ipere ngesiqingatha” kukhuthazwa kakhulu ukuba uzuze ngokupheleleyo kubuchule bukaChris Voss. Njenge-primer, siyakumema ukuba uphulaphule le vidiyo ingezantsi enika ukuphulaphula izahluko zokuqala zencwadi. Kodwa khumbula, akukho nto inokuthabatha indawo yokufunda yonke incwadi ukuze untywiliselwe ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuqonda okunzulu.
