I-ego, umchasi owoyikekayo
Kwincwadi yakhe evuselelayo, "I-Ego lutshaba: Imiqobo kwiMpumelelo," uRyan Holiday uphakamisa umqobo ophambili odla ngokuma endleleni yempumelelo: i-ego yethu. Ngokuchasene noko umntu anokucinga, i-ego ayiyona iqabane. Kukho amandla achuliweyo kodwa atshabalalisayo anokusitsalela kude kuwo iinjongo zethu zokwenyani.
Iholide isimema ukuba siqonde indlela i-ego ezibonakalisa ngayo kwiifom ezintathu: umnqweno, impumelelo kunye nokungaphumeleli. Xa sinqwenela into ethile, i-ego yethu inokusenza sibuxabise kakhulu ubuchule bethu, kusenze singakhathali kwaye sibe nekratshi. Ngomzuzu wempumelelo, i-ego inokusenza singakhathali, isithintele ekulandeleni uphuhliso lwethu lobuqu. Ekugqibeleni, xa sijamelene nokusilela, ukuzingca kunokusikhuthaza ukuba sibeke ityala kwabanye, kusithintele ekufundeni kwiimpazamo zethu.
Ngokususa ezi mbonakaliso, umbhali usinika imbono entsha malunga nendlela esijongana ngayo namabhongo ethu, impumelelo yethu kunye nokusilela kwethu. Ngokutsho kwakhe, kukufunda ukuqaphela nokulawula i-ego yethu ukuba sinokuqhubela phambili ngokwenene kwiinjongo zethu.
Ukuthobeka kunye nokuziphatha: Izitshixo zokuBala i-Ego
URyan Holiday ugxininisa kwincwadi yakhe ngokubaluleka kokuthobeka kunye nokuziphatha ukulwa ne-ego. Ezi nqobo zimbini, ezithi ngamanye amaxesha zibonakale ziphelelwe lixesha kwihlabathi lethu elinokhuphiswano olukhulu, zibalulekile kwimpumelelo.
Ukuthobeka kusivumela ukuba sigcine umbono ocacileyo wamandla kunye nemida yethu. Kusithintela ukuba singaweli kumgibe wokungakhathali, apho sicinga ukuba sazi yonke into kwaye sinakho konke esinako. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ngokuthobeka, sivuleleka ngakumbi ekufundeni nasekuphuculeni, nto leyo enokusiqhubela phambili kwimpumelelo yethu.
Kwelinye icala, uqeqesho lusishukumisela ukuba senze okuthile nangona kukho imiqobo nobunzima. I-ego inokusenza sijonge iindlela ezimfutshane okanye sinikezele xa sijongene nobunzima. Kodwa ngokuhlakulela uqeqesho, sinokuzingisa size siqhubeke sisebenzela usukelo lwethu, kwanaxa kunzima.
Ngokusikhuthaza ukuba siphuhlise ezi xabiso, "I-ego lutshaba" isinika iqhinga lokwenyani lokoyisa umqobo wethu omkhulu kwimpumelelo: ngokwethu.
Ukoyisa i-Ego ngokuzazi kunye nokuziqhelanisa novelwano
"I-Ego yiNtshaba" igxininisa ukuzazi kunye nokuziqhelanisa novelwano njengezixhobo zokuchasana ne-ego. Ngokuqonda iintshukumisa zethu kunye nokuziphatha kwethu, sinokubuya umva kwaye sibone indlela i-ego enokusenza ngayo ukuba senze ngendlela engafanelekanga.
IHolide ikwabonelela ngokuqhelisela uvelwano nabanye, nto leyo enokusinceda sibone ngaphaya kweenkxalabo zethu kwaye siqonde iimbono namava abanye. Lo mbono ubanzi unokunciphisa impembelelo ye-ego kwizenzo zethu kunye nezigqibo.
Ngoko ke, ngokuguqula i-ego kunye nokugxila ekuthobekeni, ekuqeqesheni, ekuzazini, kunye novelwano, sinokudala indawo yokucinga okucacileyo kunye nezenzo ezivelisa ngakumbi. Yindlela iHolide ecebisa ngayo kungekuphela nje kwimpumelelo, kodwa nokukhokela ubomi obulungeleleneyo nobanelisayo.
Zive ukhululekile ukuba uphonononge "Ego lutshaba" ukufumana indlela yokoyisa ego yakho kwaye uvule indlela eya empumelelweni. Kwaye ke, khumbula ukubaphulaphula izahluko zokuqala zale ncwadi ayithabatheli indawo yokufunda ngokucokisekileyo yonke le ncwadi.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuziqonda ngcono kuhambo olufuna ixesha, umgudu kunye nokucamngca, kwaye akukho sikhokelo esingcono kolu hambo kunokuba "I-Ego lutshaba" nguRyan Holiday.
