Kuthana ndi chisokonezo ndi dongosolo
Jordan Peterson, pulofesa wa zamaganizo pa yunivesite ya Toronto, akufotokoza m’buku lake lakuti “12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos” kufunika kolinganiza dongosolo ndi chipwirikiti m’miyoyo yathu. Amanena kuti moyo ndi kuvina pakati pa mphamvu ziwiri zotsutsanazi, ndipo amatipatsa malamulo oyendetsera dziko lovutali.
Limodzi mwamalingaliro ofunikira omwe Peterson akufuna ndikuyimirira molunjika mapewa anu kumbuyo. Lamulo limeneli, lomwe poyamba lingaoneke ngati losavuta, kwenikweni ndi fanizo la mmene tiyenera kukhalira ndi moyo. Pokhala odalirika, timayang'anizana ndi dziko mwachidwi osati mwachidwi. Ndi chitsimikizo cha kuthekera kwathu kuthana ndi zovuta ndikuwongolera tsogolo lathu.
Pamwamba pa izo, Peterson akugogomezera kufunika kodzisamalira tokha. Monga mmene tiyenera kuchitira ndi mnzathu amene akufunika thandizo, ifenso tiyenera kudzichitira tokha. Izi zikuphatikizapo kusamalira thanzi lathu lakuthupi ndi lamaganizo, ndi kuchita zinthu zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala ndi okhutira.
Pofotokoza malamulo awiriwa, Peterson akutipempha kuti tidzitsimikizire tokha padziko lapansi podzisamalira tokha.
Kutenga udindo ndi kulankhulana koona
Mutu wina wapakati wa buku la Peterson ndi kufunikira kotenga udindo pa moyo wathu. Limasonyeza kuti tiyenera kuchita zonse zimene tingathe m’moyo, ngakhale titakumana ndi mavuto. Iye amafikanso ponena kuti tiyenera “kutenga udindo pa chilichonse chimene chimachitika m’moyo wathu”.
Malinga ndi Peterson, ndi kutenga udindo pa moyo wathu kuti timapeza tanthauzo ndi cholinga. Zimaphatikizapo kutenga udindo pa zochita zathu, zosankha zathu ndi zolakwa zathu. Mwa kutenga udindo umenewu, timakhala ndi mwayi wophunzira maphunziro ofunika kwambiri pa zolephera zathu ndi kuwongolera monga anthu.
Kuphatikiza apo, Peterson akugogomezera kufunikira kwa kulumikizana kowona. Amalimbikitsa kunena zoona, kapena osanama. Lamuloli silimangonena za kukhulupirika, komanso kudzilemekeza nokha ndi ena. Mwa kulankhulana moona mtima, timalemekeza umphumphu wathu ndi ulemu wa ena.
Peterson akugogomezera kufunika kwa kudalirika ndi udindo pofunafuna moyo watanthauzo.
Kufunika koyenera
Mfundo ina yofunika kwambiri yomwe Peterson amakamba ndi kufunikira kokhazikika m'miyoyo yathu. Kaya ndi kulinganiza pakati pa dongosolo ndi chipwirikiti, pakati pa chitetezo ndi ulendo, kapena pakati pa miyambo ndi luso, kupeza kuti kulinganiza ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wokhutiritsa.
Mwachitsanzo, Peterson akufotokoza kuti dongosolo lochuluka lingayambitse kuuma ndi kusuntha, pamene chisokonezo chachikulu chingayambitse chisokonezo ndi kusakhazikika. Choncho nkofunika kupeza kulinganiza pakati pa zinthu ziwirizi.
Mofananamo, m’pofunika kulinganiza kufunika kwathu kwa chisungiko ndi chikhumbo chathu cha ulendo. Chitetezo chochuluka chikhoza kutilepheretsa kuchita zoopsa ndikukula, pamene kuyenda kwambiri kungatipangitse kutenga zoopsa zosafunikira komanso zoopsa.
Pomaliza, Peterson akugogomezera kufunika kogwirizanitsa ulemu wathu pamwambo ndi kufunikira kwathu kwatsopano. Ngakhale miyambo imatipatsa kukhazikika komanso kusasinthasintha, zatsopano zimatilola kuti tisinthe ndikupita patsogolo.
Lingaliro la kulinganiza lili pamtima pa ziphunzitso za Peterson. Iye amatilimbikitsa kufunafuna kulinganiza kumeneku m’mbali zonse za moyo wathu, kuti tikhale ndi moyo wokhutiritsa.
Pamapeto pake, "Malamulo 12 a Moyo: An Antidote to Chaos" ndi chitsogozo champhamvu kwa iwo omwe akufuna kumvetsetsa dziko lapansi, kupeza tanthauzo m'miyoyo yawo, ndikutenga udindo wonse pakukhalapo kwawo.
