Ukubaluleka kokuphulaphula ngokunyanisekileyo
Kwixesha apho itekhnoloji ilawula kwaye iziphazamiso zihlala zihleli, kufuneka siphucule ubugcisa bokuphulaphula ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Kwincwadi ethi “UBugcisa boMamela-Phuhlisa Amandla Okuphulaphula Ngenkuthalo,” uDominick Barbara ubalaselisa umahluko phakathi kokuva nokuphulaphula ngokwenene. Ayimangalisi into yokuba uninzi lwethu luzive luqhawuka kunxibelelwano lwethu lwemihla ngemihla; eneneni, bambalwa kuthi abaqhelisela ukuphulaphula ngenyameko.
UBarbara ugxininisa ingcamango yokuba ukumamela akukona nje ukuthabatha amagama, kodwa ukuqonda umyalezo osisiseko, iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo. Kwabaninzi, ukuphulaphula kusisenzo sokwenza nje. Nangona kunjalo, ukumamela okusebenzayo kufuna ukubandakanyeka ngokupheleleyo, ukubakho okwangoku kunye novelwano lokwenyani.
Ngaphaya kwamagama, imalunga nokubona imvakalo-zwi, intetho engeyiyo intetho kunye nokuthi cwaka. Kukwezi nkcukacha apho undoqo wokwenene wonxibelelwano ulele. UBarbara uchaza ukuba, kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu abakhangeli iimpendulo, kodwa bafuna ukuqondwa kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Ukuqaphela kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokubaluleka kokumamela ngenkuthalo kunokuguqula ubudlelwane bethu, unxibelelwano lwethu, kwaye ekugqibeleni ukuziqonda kwethu kunye nabanye. Kweli hlabathi apho ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, uBarbara usikhumbuza ngamandla othuleyo kodwa anzulu okuphulaphula ngenyameko.
Imiqobo yokuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo kunye nendlela yokuyoyisa
Ukuba ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo sisixhobo esinamandla kangaka, kutheni kungafane kusetyenziswe? UDominick Barbara kwincwadi ethi “Ubugcisa Bokuphulaphula” ujonga imiqobo emininzi esithintela ukuba siphulaphule ngenyameko.
Okokuqala, indawo enengxolo yehlabathi lanamhlanje idlala indima enkulu. Iziphazamiso ezihlala zihleli, nokuba zizaziso ezisuka kwiifowuni zethu okanye ubunzulu be-infobesity obusihlaselayo, zenza kube nzima ukugxila. Oku ngaphandle kokukhankanya iinkxalabo zethu zangaphakathi, ucalucalulo lwethu, iimbono zethu esizicingelayo, ezinokusebenza njengesihluzi, zigqwethe okanye zide zithintele oko sikuvayo.
UBarbara ukwaqaqambisa umgibe “wokumamela okungeyonyani”. Kuxa sinika inkohliso yokuphulaphula, ngelixa ngaphakathi siqulunqa impendulo yethu okanye sicinga ngenye into. Esi siqingatha sobukho sitshabalalisa unxibelelwano lwenene kwaye luthintela ukuqondana.
Ngoko sinokuyoyisa njani le miqobo? Ngokutsho kukaBarbara, inyathelo lokuqala kukwazi. Ukuyiqonda imiqobo yethu ekuphulaphuleni kubalulekile. Okulandelayo, malunga nokuziqhelanisa ngenjongo yokuphulaphula, ukuphepha iziphazamiso, ukubakho ngokupheleleyo, kunye nokuzama ukuqonda ngokwenene omnye umntu. Kwakhona ngamanye amaxesha kuthetha ukunqumamisa ii-ajenda kunye neemvakalelo zethu ukubeka phambili isithethi.
Ngokufunda ukuchonga kunye nokoyisa le miqobo, sinokuguqula unxibelelwano lwethu kwaye sakhe ubudlelwane obuyinyani nobunzulu ngakumbi.
Impembelelo enzulu yokuphulaphula kuphuhliso lomntu siqu kunye nobungcali
"Kubugcisa bokuphulaphula", uDominick uBarbara akagxininisi kuphela kubuchwephesha bokuphulaphula. Ikwaphonononga impembelelo yenguqu enokuthi ukuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo nangobom ibekho kubomi bethu bobuqu kunye nobungcali.
Kwinqanaba lomntu, ukuphulaphula ngenyameko komeleza amaqhina, kudala ukuthembana kwaye kuvelisa ukuqondana okunzulu. Ngokwenza abantu bazive bexabisekile kwaye beviwe, sivula indlela yobudlelwane obuyinyani ngakumbi. Oku kubangela ubuhlobo obuqinileyo, ubudlelwane bothando obuhambelanayo, kunye nokutshintshana kosapho olungcono.
Ngokomsebenzi, ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo sisakhono esixabiseke kunene. Iququzelela intsebenziswano, inciphisa ukungaqondani kwaye ikhuthaze indawo efanelekileyo yokusebenza. Kwiinkokeli, ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo kuthetha ukuqokelela ulwazi oluxabisekileyo, ukuqonda iimfuno zeqela, kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezizizo. Kumaqela, oku kukhokelela kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo ngakumbi, iiprojekthi eziyimpumelelo kunye nokuziva unamandla okuba ngowabanye.
UBarbara uqukumbela ngokukhumbuza ukuba ukuphulaphula ayisosenzo sokwenziwa, kodwa lukhetho olusebenzayo lokuzibandakanya ngokupheleleyo nabanye. Ngokukhetha ukumamela, asityebisi nje kuphela ubudlelwane bethu, kodwa sikwabonelela ngamathuba okufunda, ukukhula, nokuchuma kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu.
Fumana incasa yezahluko zokuqala ezimanyelwayo zencwadi kwividiyo engezantsi. Ukucwiliswa ngokupheleleyo, sincoma kakhulu ukuba ufunde le ncwadi ngokupheleleyo.
