Charisma decoded: ngaphezu kobukho, ubudlelwane
I-Charisma idla ngokubonwa njengesipho sokuzalwa, into umntu anayo okanye angenayo. Nangona kunjalo, uFrançois Aélion, kumsebenzi wakhe othi "Charisma yobudlelwane", uyabuza le ngcamango. Ngokutsho kwakhe, i-charisma ayiyona nje i-aura engaqondakaliyo, kodwa isiphumo sobudlelwane obakhiwe kunye nawe kunye nabanye.
U-Aélion ugxininisa ukubaluleka koqhagamshelwano oluyinyani. Kwihlabathi elilawulwa ngamajelo eendaba ezentlalo kunye nokunxibelelana okungaphaya, kubalulekile ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane obunzulu, obunentsingiselo. Obu bunyani, obu buchule bokubakho kunye nokuphulaphula ngokwenene, ngundoqo kwi-charisma yokwenyani.
Ubunyani bungaphezulu nje kokungafihli. Kukuqonda okunzulu komntu okuxabisekileyo, iminqweno kunye nemida. Xa sizibandakanya kubudlelwane ngobunyani bokwenyani, sikhuthaza ukuthembana. Abantu batsalwa koku, hayi ngomdlalo olula wobukho.
UFrançois Aélion uhamba phambili ngokuseka ikhonkco phakathi kwe-charisma kunye nobunkokeli. Inkokeli ekhaliphileyo ayisoloko ithethela phezulu okanye ithatha indawo enkulu. Ngumntu othi, ngobukho bakhe bokwenyani, adale indawo apho abanye bazive bebonwa, beviwe kwaye beqondwa.
Umsebenzi usikhumbuza ukuba charisma ayisosiphelo ngokwayo. Sisixhobo, ubuchule obunokuphuhliswa. Kwaye njengaso nasiphi na isakhono, kufuna ukuziqhelanisa kunye nokuzazisa. Ekugqibeleni, charisma yokwenyani yileyo iphakamisa abanye, ikhuthaze kwaye ikhokelele kutshintsho olulungileyo.
Ukuhlakulela ukuthembana kunye nokuphulaphula: Iintsika zobudlelwane bothando
Eqhubeka nendlela yakhe yokuhlola i-charisma, uFrançois Aélion ugxininise kwiintsika ezimbini ezisisiseko zokwakha le charisma yobudlelwane: ukuthembela kunye nokuphulaphula. Ngokutsho kombhali, ezi zinto zisisiseko salo naluphi na ubudlelwane bokwenyani, nokuba bubuhlobo, ubuchwephesha okanye uthando.
Ukuthembela yinxalenye yamacandelo amaninzi. Iqala ngokuzithemba, ukukwazi ukukholelwa kumaxabiso kunye nobuchule bomntu. Noko ke, kukwabandakanya ukuthemba abanye. Koku kuphindaphindana okusivumela ukuba siseke amaqhina aqinileyo nahlala ehleli. U-Aélion ugxininisa ukuba intembeko lutyalo-mali. Yakhiwe ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngezenzo ezihambelanayo kunye neenjongo ezicacileyo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuphulaphula kudla ngokujongelwa phantsi. Kwihlabathi apho wonke umntu efuna ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe, ukuthabatha ixesha lokuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo kuye kwaba yinto enqabileyo. I-Aélion inikezela ngobuchule kunye nokuzivocavoca ukuphuhlisa oku kuphulaphula okusebenzayo, okuhamba ngaphaya kwesenzo esilula sokuva. Imalunga nokuqonda ngokwenyani imbono yomnye, ukuziva iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokunika impendulo efanelekileyo.
Umtshato wokuthembana kunye nokuphulaphula wenza oko u-Aélion akubiza ngokuthi "i-charisma yobudlelwane". Ayingomtsalane nje ongaphezulu, kodwa isakhono esinzulu sokunxibelelana, ukuqonda kunye nempembelelo entle kwabo bakungqongileyo. Ngokuhlakulela ezi ntsika zimbini, umntu ngamnye unokufikelela kwimpembelelo yendalo, esekelwe kukuhloniphana nokunyaniseka.
Ngaphandle kwamagama: Amandla eemvakalelo kunye nokungabi namazwi
Kweli candelo lokugqibela lophononongo lwakhe, uFrançois Aélion utyhila inkalo ehlala ingahoywa ye-charisma yobudlelwane: ukunxibelelana okungathethwayo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo. Ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo eqhelekileyo, i-charisma ayithethi nje ngeentetho ezintle okanye ubuchule obumangalisayo. Ikwahlala kwinto engathethwayo, kubugcisa bobukho.
U-Aélion uchaza ukuba phantse i-70% yonxibelelwano lwethu ayithethi. Izimbo zomzimba wethu, inkangeleko yobuso, indlela esimi ngayo, kunye nokuvakala kwelizwi lethu kudla ngokuthetha ngaphezu kwamagama ngokwawo. Ukuxhawula isandla esilula okanye ukujonga kunokuseka uxhulumaniso olunzulu okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukudala umqobo ongenakunqandwa.
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo bubugcisa bokuqaphela, ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zethu, ngelixa sinovelwano kwezabanye. U-Aélion ucebisa ukuba esi sisitshixo sokuhamba ngobuchule kwihlabathi elintsonkothileyo lobudlelwane babantu. Ngokumamela iimvakalelo zethu nezabanye, singenza unxibelelwano oluyinyani, olunovelwano nolutyebisayo.
UFrançois Aélion uqukumbela ngokukhumbula ukuba i-charisma yobudlelwane ifikeleleka kumntu wonke. Ayingomgangatho wendalo, kodwa luluhlu lwezakhono ezinokuthi ziphuhliswe ngokuzimisela, ngokwazisa nangokuziqhelanisa. Ngokusebenzisa amandla eemvakalelo kunye nonxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama, sonke sinokuba ziinkokeli ezinomdla kubomi bethu.
Fumanisa inguqulelo yesandi "yeCharisma yobudlelwane" nguFrançois Aélion. Eli lithuba elinqabileyo lokumamela le ncwadi iyonke kwaye uphonononge nzulu kwiimfihlakalo zobudlelwane bobudlelwane.
