Yenza umbono okhumbulekayo wokuqala ngobuchule bukaNicolas Boothman
Kwi "Khoyisela ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emi-2", uNicolas Boothman ubonisa indlela entsha kunye nenguquko yokunxibelelana nabanye ngoko nangoko. Sisixhobo esixabiseke kakhulu kuye nabani na onqwenela ukuphucula izakhono zabo unxibelelwano kunye nokucenga.
UBoothman uqala ngokuthi yonke intsebenziswano lithuba lokudala umbono wokuqala ongalibalekiyo. Ugxininisa ukubaluleka kolwimi lomzimba, ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza kunye namandla amagama ekudaleni loo mbono yokuqala. Ugxininiso lubekwe kukubaluleka kobunyani kunye nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nabanye. UBoothman ubonelela ngeendlela zokufezekisa le njongo, ezinye zazo ezinokubonakala ziphikisana.
Ngokomzekelo, ucebisa ngokulinganisa ngobuchule ulwimi lomzimba womnye umntu ukudala uxhulumaniso olukhawulezileyo. UBoothman ukwagxininisa ukubaluleka kokuphulaphula ngenyameko nangovelwano, engagxininisi nje into ethethwa ngomnye umntu, kodwa nendlela abathetha ngayo nendlela abaziva ngayo.
Ekugqibeleni, uBoothman ugxininisa ekukhethweni kwamagama. Uthi amazwi esiwasebenzisayo anokuba nempembelelo enkulu kwindlela abanye abasijonga ngayo. Ukusebenzisa amagama avuselela ukuthembana nomdla kunokusinceda sakhe ulwalamano olomeleleyo nolunemveliso.
Ubuchule bonxibelelwano obutsha bokutsala abaphulaphuli bakho
Enye yezona zinto zinamandla kakhulu encwadi ethi "Ukukholisa ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emi-2" ilele kwikhonkrithi kunye nezixhobo ezisebenzayo ezinikezelwa ngumbhali uNicolas Boothman kubafundi bakhe. UBoothman ugxininisa, njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, ukubaluleka kokuvela kuqala, esithi umntu unemizuzwana engama-90 ukwenza unxibelelwano oluhle nomnye umntu.
Yazisa ingcamango "yeendlela zonxibelelwano": ezibonakalayo, ezivakalayo kunye ne-kinesthetic. NgokukaBoothman, sonke sinejelo elinelungelo esithi ngalo sibone kwaye sitolike ihlabathi elisingqongileyo. Umzekelo, umntu obonakalayo unokuthi "Ndiyayibona into oyithethayo", ngelixa umntu ovayo anokuthi "Ndiyakuva into oyithethayo". Ukuqonda kunye nokulungelelanisa unxibelelwano lwethu kula majelo kunokuphucula kakhulu amandla ethu okwenza unxibelelwano kunye nokucenga abanye.
UBoothman ukwabonelela ngobuchule bokwenza ukudibana kwamehlo okusebenzayo, ukusebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba ukubonisa ukungafihli kunye nomdla, kunye nokuseka "isipili" okanye ulungelelwaniso nomntu ozama ukumcenga, nto leyo idala imvakalelo yokuqhelana kunye nentuthuzelo.
Lilonke, uBoothman unikezela ngendlela epheleleyo yonxibelelwano ehamba ngaphaya kwamagama esiwathethayo ukubandakanya indlela esiwathetha ngayo kunye nendlela esizibonakalisa ngayo ngokwasemzimbeni xa sisebenzisana nabanye.
Ukuhamba ngaphaya kwamagama: ubugcisa bokuphulaphula ngenyameko
UBoothman ubonisa “Ukukholisa Ngaphantsi kweMizuzu emi-2” ukuba ukweyisela akupheleli kwindlela esithetha ngayo nesinikela ngayo, kodwa ikwadlulela kwindlela esimamela ngayo. Yazisa ingcamango “yokuphulaphula ngenyameko,” ubuchule obukhuthaza kungekuphela nje ukuva amazwi omnye umntu, kodwa nokuqonda injongo yaloo mazwi.
UBoothman ugxininisa ukubaluleka kokubuza imibuzo evulelekileyo, leyo ayinakuphendulwa ngokulula “ewe” okanye “hayi”. Le mibuzo ikhuthaza ingxoxo enzulu kwaye yenza lowo udliwano-ndlebe azive exabisekile kwaye eqondwa.
Ikwachaza nokubaluleka kokuphinda-phinda oko kwathethwa ngomnye umntu ngamazwi ethu. Oku akubonisi nje ukuba siphulaphule, kodwa nokuba sifuna ukuqonda.
Ekugqibeleni, uBoothman uqukumbela ngokugxininisa ukuba ukweyisela kungaphezu kokutshintshiselana nje ngolwazi. Kumalunga nokudala unxibelelwano lomntu oluyinyani, olufuna uvelwano lokwenene kunye nokuqonda iimfuno kunye neminqweno yomnye umntu.
Le ncwadi ngumgodi wegolide wolwazi kuye nabani na ofuna ukuphucula izakhono zabo zokunxibelelana kunye nokukholisa, nokuba kukwintsimi yobungcali okanye yobuqu. Kucacile ukuba isitshixo sokukholisa ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emibini ayikho iresiphi eyimfihlo, kodwa isethi yezakhono ezinokuthi zifundwe kwaye zihlonishwe ngokuziqhelanisa.
Kwaye ungalibali, unokwenza nzulu ukuqonda kwakho kwezi ndlela ngokumamela incwadi ethi “Ukukholisa ngaphantsi kweMizuzu emi-2” iyonke ngevidiyo. Sukulinda ixesha elide, fumana ukuba unokuphucula njani izakhono zakho zokucenga kwaye wenze umbono ongapheliyo ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emibini!
