Ukuqonda Amanxeba Omphefumulo
Ku-"Healing of the 5 Wounds", uLise Bourbeau wembula ububi obucekela phansi impilo yethu. inhlalakahle yangaphakathi. Ubiza amanxeba amahlanu omphefumulo: ukulahlwa, ukulahlwa, ukululazeka, ukukhashelwa nokungabi nabulungisa. Lezi zinkinga ezingokomzwelo zihumusha ekuhluphekeni ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Le ncwadi igqamisa ukubaluleka kokuqaphela la manxeba nokubonakala kwawo ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke. Lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuqala inqubo yokuphulukisa.
I-Bourbeau inikeza amasu okukhulula le mizwa engemihle. Kuthuthukisa ukuzamukela, ukuqaphela izidingo zethu zangempela, nokuveza imizwa yethu ngokwethembeka. Siyamenywa ukuba sisuse izifihla-buso esifihla ngazo amanxeba ethu futhi samukele zonke izici zobuntu bethu ngothando nesihawu.
Ukuqopha imaski ngemuva kwamanxeba
U-Lise Bourbeau unentshisekelo kumamaski esiwagqokayo ukufihla amanxeba ethu. Inxeba ngalinye kulawa mahlanu, uthi, liholela ekuziphatheni okuthile, indlela yokuziveza emhlabeni. Uhlonza lezi zimaski njenge-Evasive, The Dependent, the Masochistic, the Controlling and the Rigid.
Ngokuqonda lezi zindlela zokuzivikela, singazikhulula emikhawulweni ezisibekela yona. Isibonelo, i-Controlling ingafunda ukuyeka, kuyilapho i-Evasive ingafunda ukubhekana nokwesaba kwabo. Imaski ngayinye iveza indlela eya ekwelapheni.
Ngokuzihlola ngobuqotho kanye nesifiso sangempela soguquko, singasusa kancane kancane lezi zifihla-buso, samukele futhi sipholise amanxeba ethu, ukuze siphile impilo egcwaliseke futhi eyiqiniso. U-Bourbeau ugcizelela ukubaluleka kwalo msebenzi womuntu siqu, ngoba nakuba inqubo ingaba buhlungu, iyindlela eya ekuphileni okwanelisayo.
Indlela eya eqinisweni kanye nenhlalakahle
U-Lise Bourbeau ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokuphulukiswa kanye nokuzamukela ukuze kuzuzwe ubuqiniso nokuphila kahle. Ngokusho kwakhe, ukuzazi nokuqonda izindlela zokuziphatha kwethu kuyisihluthulelo sokuphila impilo egcwele neyanelisayo.
Ukuphulukisa amanxeba amahlanu akuyona nje indlela yokunqoba ubuhlungu nezindaba ezingokomzwelo, kodwa futhi kuyindlela eya ezingeni eliphakeme lokuqaphela nokuvuka. Ngokuvuma amanxeba ethu futhi sisebenzele ukuwelapha, sizivulela ubudlelwano obujulile, ukuzethemba okukhulu, kanye nempilo eyiqiniso.
Nokho, uBourbeau uxwayisa ngokulindela indlela elula. Ukwelapha kuthatha isikhathi, isineke nokuzibophezela kuwena. Naphezu kwalokhu, ugcizelela ukuthi umdlalo uwufanele umzamo, njengoba ukuphulukiswa nokuzamukela kuwukhiye wempilo eyiqiniso nenenjongo.
Ngaphambi nje kokuthi ungene ekubukeleni ividiyo, gcina lokhu engqondweni: nakuba inikeza isingeniso esibalulekile ezahlukweni zokuqala zencwadi, akukho lutho olungangena esikhundleni sengcebo yolwazi nemininingwane ejulile ozoyithola ngokufunda “The Healing of the 5 Amanxeba” ngokuphelele.
