I-ego, isitha esesabekayo
Encwadini yakhe evusa inkanuko, “I-Ego Isitha: Izithiyo Empumelelweni,” uRyan Holiday uphakamisa isithiyo esiyinhloko esivame ukuma endleleni yempumelelo: ukuzicabangela kwethu siqu. Ngokuphambene nalokho umuntu angase akucabange, i-ego ayiyona umngane. Kukhona amandla acashile kodwa abhubhisayo angasisusa kuwo imigomo yethu yangempela.
Iholide lisimema ukuba siqonde ukuthi i-ego izibonakalisa kanjani ngezindlela ezintathu: ukulangazelela, impumelelo nokwehluleka. Uma silangazelela okuthile, ukuzazisa kwethu kungasenza siwabheke ngokweqile amakhono ethu, kusenze sibe budedengu futhi sizikhukhumeze. Esikhathini sempumelelo, i-ego ingasenza singanaki, isivimbele ekuphishekeleni intuthuko yethu yomuntu siqu. Ekugcineni, lapho sibhekene nokwehluleka, ukuzazisa kungasikhuthaza ukuba sisole abanye, kusivimbele ukuba sifunde emaphutheni ethu.
Ngokususa lokhu kubonakaliswa, umbhali usinikeza umbono omusha wokuthi sifinyelela kanjani izifiso zethu, impumelelo yethu kanye nokwehluleka kwethu. Ngokusho kwakhe, kungokufunda ukubona nokulawula i-ego yethu lapho singathuthukela khona ngempela emigomweni yethu.
Ukuthobeka Nokuzithiba: Izihluthulelo Zokulwa Nombono
U-Ryan Holiday ugcizelela encwadini yakhe ngokubaluleka kokuthobeka kanye nesiyalo ukuze abhekane ne-ego. Lezi zindinganiso ezimbili, ngezinye izikhathi ezibonakala ziyisidala emhlabeni wethu onokuncintisana kakhulu, zibalulekile empumelelweni.
Ukuthobeka kusivumela ukuthi sigcine umbono ocacile wamakhono ethu kanye nemingcele. Kusivimbela ekuweleni ogibeni lokunganeliseki, lapho sicabanga ukuthi sazi konke futhi sinakho konke esingakwenza. Okuxakayo ukuthi ngokuthobeka, sivuleleka kakhulu ekufundeni nasekuthuthukeni, okungasiqhubela phambili empumelelweni yethu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isiyalo singamandla asivumela ukuba senze okuthile naphezu kwezithiyo nobunzima. I-ego ingasenza sifune izindlela ezinqamulelayo noma silahle ithemba lapho sibhekene nobunzima. Kodwa ngokuhlakulela isiyalo, singakhuthazela futhi siqhubeke sisebenzela ekufinyeleleni imigomo yethu, ngisho nalapho isimo siba nzima.
Ngokusikhuthaza ukuthi sithuthukise lezi zimiso, "I-ego isitha" isinika isu langempela lokunqoba isithiyo sethu esikhulu sempumelelo: ngokwethu.
Ukunqoba I-Ego Ngokuzazi kanye Nomkhuba Wokuzwela
"I-Ego iyisitha" igcizelela ukuzazi kanye nomkhuba we-Empathy njengamathuluzi okumelana ne-ego. Ngokuqonda izisusa zethu kanye nokuziphatha kwethu, singahlehla futhi sibone ukuthi i-ego ingasenza kanjani senze ngezindlela eziphikisayo.
Iholide liphinde linikeze ukuzijwayeza ukuzwelana nabanye, okungasisiza ukuba sibone ngale kwezisikhathazayo futhi siqonde imibono kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Lo mbono obanzi unganciphisa umthelela wokuzazisa ezenzweni nasezinqumweni zethu.
Ngakho-ke, ngokususa i-ego futhi sigxile ekuzithobeni, ekuziphatheni, ekuzazini nasekuzwelaneni, singakha isikhala sokucabanga okucacile nezenzo ezikhiqizayo. Kuyindlela Amaholide ayincomayo hhayi kuphela empumelelweni, kodwa futhi nokuhola impilo elinganiselayo negculisayo.
Ngakho-ke zizwe ukhululekile ukuhlola okuthi “Ego is the Enemy” ukuze uthole ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukuzazisa kwakho nokuvula indlela eya empumelelweni. Futhi-ke, khumbula lokholalela izahluko zokuqala zencwadi ayithathi indawo yokufunda ngokucophelela le ncwadi iyonke.
Phela, ukuziqonda kangcono kuwuhambo oludinga isikhathi, umzamo nokuzindla, futhi asikho isiqondiso esingcono salolu hambo kune-“The Ego is the Enemy” kaRyan Holiday.
